DS is with his home tutor............

[devientenigma]

so now have 20 mins spare.

hope you've got your feet up & a nice cup of tea. Enjoy!!

lol, I'm sitting on the lappy with a glass of coke and nursing a pounding headache

how's it going? how long are the sessions?

Apart from a few refusals, avoidance and stalling tactics and a couple of major meltdowns it's ok.
As for more than the 5 hours per week, he gets 20 mins a day due to school saying he couldn't cope with more and his attention spans not great.
So my feet was up for 20 mins, was supposed to look for a car for hubby, but by the time I had checked here and a quick look at facebook time was up.
It's just a bit of headache as he is quite strict. So needs the place tidy!! needs ds to have clothes on!! no toy cars around etc so it's just the faff of getting it all perfect for him. When it hasn't been he has added it in his notes.

sounds like it's creating more trouble than it's helping! but can see why he would prefer your DS to be clothed (in terms of arse covering/child protection stuff). is he going to try and increase the time of sessions?

there is a review in 6 weeks time, so will know more then.

How's the arm, dev?

the arm?? Ellen

Bugger, got you mixed up with someone else, dev. It's my age, I'm 45 you know....

lol Ellen I'm a few year behind and I'm exactly the same. Can't remember what I done an hour ago, never mind yesterday. Was just worried about what I or who had done.

What worries me is that I've been talking to someone else thinking it's you! Oooops!

now curious to know what you have been talking about, plus the replies of the other, if she sounded like me lol

I've pmed you!

I have replied

So, now I've got that straight....

Did the school insist on taking him in this week, or did you manage to put them off?

lol, they did set up a plan due to what I was doing with him in school was beginning to fail. He was refusing to do everything except soft play.
I didn't put them off, what I have done is:
yesterday he had half an hour in soft play with a TA from his class. Then I offered him dinner at school or home and he asked to go home. I knew he wouldn't cope with it, however I thought let them see him decide, and how forceful he can be.
Today I took him for 1:1 with his class teacher in the library for half an hour, then he came back to see me with another TA to say they were going to soft play. He seemed ok and both times he hasn't refused to go back, so they must of listened and decided to do it my way for once.
Tomorrow is a worry, he is going swimming with yet another TA from his class and the new lifeguard who he refused last week and that was with me swimming with him. Swimming does have other issues for him which I am concerned they don't realise. Then they are going to take him to his class for a snack with the rest of the kids, cue meltdown when I see him!! After snack he is supposed to be going to a room alone with his teacher for 1:1 again for half an hour. So quite a stressful morning for him. I don't know how to play this for him yet or even whether to say anything to staff and just let them get on with it for the reaction from him to prove a point iyswim. Which really could be the wrong thing to do. Couldn't ask the psyc he's still on his jolly holidays lol.
Then Thursday same as yesterday, however Wednesday could still affect him, in which case he won't leave the bedroom.

It's a dilemma, let him meltdown so the school understand the issues a bit better, but then have to rebuild all that confidence back up, or insist that the swimming is one step too far this week? Depends how much damage letting him meltdown will do. Will the school listen to you, or would you have to abandon the whole day? Getting him there every day seems like a good idea, to get him into a bit of a routine with it, but if tomorrow will be shite? Hard decision. Sorry if no help!