sometimes being a mum of SN kids sucks

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fed up and need to crawl up to bed and cry but i dont have time. I feel like im trying to tear myself in different ways and im failing my beutiful girls :(

Completely understand that triggles I think you are doing the right thing but you must be disappointed

Problem I have re: saturday is that I am actually involved in some surprise entertainment for the evening that the BTB knows nothing about and - obviously - I dont want to let them down...I initially said no when asked but was emotionally blackmailed to do it!

sigh. Just want the day to be over tbh........

I agree with TIMETOASK , I go to work for a rest ! (only part time)

It can be such a struggle;do try to take the time to re-charge your batteries and I agree,if your phone keeps ringing,turn it off !

Sorry to hear about your mum,hope she is recovering.
HONK!!!!(yes I was on that thread too)

intothewest.....glad you saw the HONK thing....was beginning to think that, in my permanently "stressed to the eyeballs" state, I'd imagined it!!

Am still stressing about "drugging" my son....and it's only the third day. We have to give it a couple of months to trial. Great. Am back to style and beauty again now....for some meaningless tosh

Hi Lisa, you do a fantastic job for all your family, you are just pulled in too many directions a t the mo. When I 1st read sometimes being........I thought you are kidding, it's most times!!
To cheer you up how about we swap kids for a while??

lisa, it must be so hard trying to deal with more than one lot of SEN. Everyone else is right, you NEED the time to stop somehow.

We've trundled on for years 'just about coping' with one child with SEN, till the last term when (allegedly NT) son was bullied to the point that his behaviour became very strange and distressing, and then (allegedly NT) daughter was ill on top -- and we plummeted from 'just about coping' to utter despair at trying to deal with it all.

Sorry to hear this Lisa. Puts my petty complaints into persepective.
Are you crying from general fatigue, or is there something specific that happenedd, re the girls ?, that just kind of pushed you over the edge ?

It really does OP - I've just got back from the funeral of a beautiful 7 month old boy who was in my dd support group, life really doesn't get any worse than that - his poor parents :(

sorry things feel so crap Lisa. Hope your Mum is on the mend. Hope today is a brighter.

A day off today :) DD1 is on a school trip till 5.30pm and DD2 is at her special school and her NT school too, so wont be back before 3.40pm. I went back to bed once they had gone to school (5am waking is a PITA) and then got loads of housework done. I think I had fallen into a pit of mess since easter. Between both the girls, dh appointments, mums stroke and me falling down the stairs and ending up on crutches, add to that a 3 week school holiday and my house was a tip!! I hate mess and it depresses me.

Know what you mean proudmum, a little boy i worked with was hit by a car last week, they turned his life support off yesterday, he was 4 :(
Life is so harsh

OMG Lisa, you really have had a tough time! I'm so glad you managed to find some time for you today. Take care of yourself x

I'm honking with you, Lisa.

Good to hear you have had a day to yourself Lisa. I was exactly the same at the beginning of this week and am now starting to feel so much brighter after chipping away at the chaos that had decended on my household. I now rather pathetically have a little smile to myself every time I pass the dining table and notice it doesn't have anything on it!

Lessons from geese thread

There was a similar one in December.

HONK!

thats not pathetic at all, i do the same, I love a tidy house. Please note my house is in no way empty of clutter, there are jobs that have been waiting for ages, but i love clearing up after tea knowing all i have to do is make lunch, put my feet uip and drink tea.
I think SS should offer us all a cleaner it would save them loads in meds and breakdown care

Oooooh - a cleaner!!! I could deal with a LOAD of stress if I just had a cleaner to clean the floors and things that I just never get the chance to keep up with!!!! I vote for a cleaner! (because let's face it, if I had respite, I'd only end up using it as time to catch up on all the cleaning! )

omg heavenly idea some days im so tired i can hardly keep my eyes open and the GP was going to give me tablets for depression but the side effects were not worth it you cant be drugged to the hilt trying to look after 3 kids can you but a cleaner yessss pleaseeee mr cameron haha

Yep- I used it to clean the shed and go to the tip the other day....but I quite like the tip and that feeling of getting rid of STUFF

I need a skip!

I need at least a dozen skips, despite the fact we live in a house which is the size of a shoebox.

I'd have to get one cleaner to do a huge spring clean, then never see her again and get another one to keep it clean regularly!

See its not just me who needs a cleaner/skip/life coach!

pmsl - EllenJane - I'd be one of those daft people that had to clean the house before the cleaner got there, so they weren't horrified !

yeah I have been wondering if direct payments would help cover the cost of a life coach as well as a cleaner.
I'm also with triggles where I would also be cleaning the house before the cleaner got there so it wasn't too bad