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Oh bollocks!

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 18:56

we have, after nearly 3 years, got dd1's sleeping back on track.

we have even managed to find a babysitter, and last week, I did a trial run outing, where the babysitter did all the bedtime routine (unheard of since dd1 was about 3, tbh), and all went fine.

dh and I had a night out lined up for Wednesday again, our first proper night out in ages - have been down the road to the pub after the girls are asleep, but this was a proper night out in London)

I have just had a text, and the sitter has cancelled.

no bloody chance of finding a replacement now, really.

bollocks.

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TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 23/05/2011 19:01

oh thats rotten silverfrog, can you rearrange at all? Those odd nights out are so important.

smileANDwave2000 · 23/05/2011 19:05

oh sh** thats not good is it i know how you feel since my mum died ive no1 to babysit who really understands DS so not been out for over 4 years of an evening but finaaly hes bonded better with a cousin of my DH so in the day ive been now and again getting her to babysit but have not tried night as hes so insistant i read to him he wont even let his dad bro or sis read has to be me or he wont go off plus his medicine ect ect and so the routine goes on and on, so expensive to miss out on a night in london esp if its a show, poor you if i lived near id do it.

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 19:13

no, no chance ot postpone, as got tickets for a concert.

fuck it.

this is the first time in years I've eben able to have someone else do all the bedtime routine (even when we had a nanny briefly last year, I did most of bedtime before going out, so we were limited ot local pub/quick dinner out etc)

she is a TA at dd1's school - you'd think she would understand how impossible it would be for us to find another sitter at such short notice!

thanks for the offer, smileandwave Smile

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smileANDwave2000 · 23/05/2011 19:19

we really need a MNrs SN sitter service dont we

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 19:21

yes, it would be a godsend.

best get emailing and see if anyone wants our tickets...

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5inthebed · 23/05/2011 19:26

Oh no, that is shit. Did she give any reason why?

I would babysit for you, but IIRC you don't live in the NE.

What concert were you going to go see?

Al1son · 23/05/2011 19:28

Oh Silverfrog that's such a shame. The sitter clearly doesn't have any idea of the emotional investment you had in this night out.

Don't let it stop you trying again will you? Obviously not with this sitter but do try to find a different one and book something else. DH and I had our first night out in about three years last week and it was lovely. I really enjoyed being me instead of Mum. We had a laugh with some friends and really chilled out. I'm sure it made me a nicer mum afterwards too.

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 19:30

nope, no reason - just a text saying "can't do wedesday, let me know if you need me in the future" Hmm - not bloody likely, tbh!

and thank you, but no, not in the NE.

we were off to see some friends play in a jazz concert. nothing headliner-y, or exciting (to most). but it would have been me and dh going out for once, not either/or...

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sickofsocalledexperts · 23/05/2011 19:32

That is v annoying silverfrog. I wonder if the very very reliable babysitter I use (former ABA tutor) would come out your way? She is the only person I trust enough with my DS to exit the door for the evening with a completely carefree step, as I know she'll cope whatever he throws at her. I could ask her?

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 19:37

oh, thanks sickof, but I woudln't be happy swanning off miles away first itme around anyway, iyswim?

I should stop moping, really - dh and I do alright going out - my best friend will always pop over for the evening (after bedtime etc), and she comes with us if we have eg a wedding to go to. but again, need to go back to do bedtime etc.

this was just a chance to skip out the door like any other parent for once.

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5inthebed · 23/05/2011 19:53

Personally, I'd have had to let them know how much they have let you down.

I really feel for you :(

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 19:57

dh said he woudl ring her

he's out late tonight, so won't know what she said until later...

wel, I guess that solves my other ongoing dilemma, hwich was "do we really need to get another nanny?" - clearly we do, as other babysitters are thin on the ground (and ideally need one for school run anyway, but then we found this sitter, and were re-thinking things)

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5inthebed · 23/05/2011 20:19

What a shame.

I'm the same, crap at confrontation.

DietcokeGirl · 23/05/2011 21:21

oh silver that's crap.

passing the Wine

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silverfrog · 23/05/2011 21:22

no wine allowed - am on medication Sad

and, to topit all off, am in hospital for an operation on Thursday - so coudl really have done with a lovely night out beforehand.

humph.

will go back to eating haribo.

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DietcokeGirl · 23/05/2011 21:33

oh flip, buzz yourself up on haribos eh!

hope operation goes well.

LeninGrad · 23/05/2011 22:01

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silverfrog · 26/05/2011 08:11

....and Cinders did go to the ball after all Grin

have I ever said how much I love dd1's school?

the head of school spoke to me on Tuesday morning, and said that she would sort it all out - ended up with one of the tutors coming over to do the early shift, and then head herself coming over to stay late (well, I ay late - school night, so we were home by 11)

we had a great time, and nice to have an evening off together for once - especially since we won't be doing much talking over the next week or so (compacted wisdom teeth removal this afternoon - )

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IndigoBell · 26/05/2011 08:31

Wow! There are some extremely good and dedicated professionals in this world.

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