Do you ever feel like you're just talking to yourself?

[Triggles]

sigh

DS2 can be very single minded. He wants to talk about a certain thing or wants something in particular, and nothing but nothing else matters. The house could be on fire, and it simply wouldn't register with him. I can tell him "no" a million times, explain why not or why not now, and he just calmly returns to the same question/request without a blip or even seeming to hear me. It's maddening sometimes, and I swear I reach a point where I begin to wonder if I'm even speaking out loud.

DH is going through a difficult time with depression - he went to the GP and asked for more counselling as last time it took them months to arrange it (even though they said he was at a critical level and then it was only phone counselling and less than useless. GP told him that's all there is. Not very helpful. But that means he's struggling, and I'm rather left holding everything down myself. And half the time when I've spoken to him about something, he doesn't even remember the conversation. So again... am I even speaking out loud that nobody hears me?

And DS3... well, he's 1. He does what he pleases, although he is beginning to figure out "no".. meaning now he's realising to wait until I'm distracted with something else and then go after something he's not supposed to have!

DH has some good moments, and realises that a lot of the stress is on me right now. I really struggled through PND, refusing medication, and regardless of how down and stressed I sometimes feel, it makes me feel as though I cannot speak to a GP about it, as DH is already on meds for depression and I absolutely must cope, no matter what, as what else can I do? I've been ill quite a bit recently, which I suspect is because I'm so run down all the time.

I'm obviously not near the breaking point, as I can recognise what's going on, and am taking what little steps I can to alleviate some stress. But dear Lord, just ONCE I would like DS2 to simply say "okay" and let it go when I say no. It hasn't happened yet this morning..........

oh wow im so sorry how frustrating i bet you think your going crazy i know i often do it sounds so familiar really it does and thats not much help i know, i see where your comming from on speaking to the GP, how old is DS2 Triggles? its so hard when our DCs appear to be listening but really they seem to only hear what they want to hear and in those type of conversations my DS will either do as youve mentioned ie continue asking as if i never spoke or only hear part of what ive said like ill say we are going there later( my fault as i sometimes forget must be literal in explanation) he will only hear we are going there not the later part even if i am literal and say simply yes he will say what now? when what time (he still cant tell the time so this informations a bit useless) so ill say when the big hands there and the little hands there but he will ignore that and say were not going are we mummy some days im so frustrated pmsl hes just sat there now and said when are we going to the cinema lol here we go.
All i can suggest is try and explain in litteral terms which im sure you probably already do and try n relax you must let as much as possible wash over you to survive and chat to a friend or relative for so sanity if you cant go to the GP sounds like you need some time off for good behaviour to me (((hugs)))

smile yes, it's like an NT child's "are we there yet?" but all day... (and half the night)....DS2 is 4yo... I've put the movie in that he wanted to watch, but he hasn't actually watched it... he's asking me for about the 40th time if he can take the chatty telephone to his room... which he can't as he will then get DS3's attention, and he's supposed to be napping! (although DS2 is keeping him awake with his noise!) and ongoing alternating with "can I have a snack" although he just had one. If I actually turned off the movie, we'd have a meltdown, even though he's not really watching it. ... and the same questions just keep going... it's like living with an energiser bunny

Youve got to laugh Triggles rather than cry bless him my DS2 is the same sometimes when you think about it its funny though one warning for gods sake dont let him ever watch that movie when hes older "are we nearly there yet?" lol i have to do the same the tvs on now although hes playing a DS game hes got disney channel on too if i turn it off he will go into meltdown ive got a playroom he could watch telly in but hes in the living room , theres one thing for sure never a dull or quiet moment

Yep. And I thank the Lord every day that he's in no way interested in Ben 10, Power Rangers, or Pokemon.

I know where you're coming from too ,TRIGGLES with the repetition thing.....but my DH and DD taught DS to say 'Are we nearly there yet?'...they thought it was funny the first time........

Hi, just wanted to send a bit of empathy...

This is just a thought, but is requests you can record visually, sort of 'his room, the play phone, and a No or stop, symbol' ? is it possible to direct him to check instaed of answering.

I'm afraid I can remember details of your dcs so that might be a silly suggestions, . but it kind of removes your response from the equation.

As feeling crappy in general, the GP won't mind if you are as well as your DH, (I can understand the feeling tho as had what sounds like very similar situayion with my previous DH.)

Hang in there, and be kind to self when and where you can.

PS we are listening, you are heard here,