Advice please: Dangerous obsession or innocent??

[mummyplum]

I am becoming a little concerned with DD's new interest.
She drew a couple of pictures last week of members of the family, surrounded by some rather jagged lines. She bought me one and she told me that one was her Aunty "in the 'burny' fire". I was quite surprised to be honest but ignored it, and tried to forget that she said it. I overheard DD playing with her toys today - she seems to be in the habit of throwing them behind her rater than actually playing with them, anyway, the threw this toy and laughed shouting that the toy horse was in the fire now. She knows what a fire is, that ovens are dangerous etc, and I don't for one minute think that she is going to become an arsonist but I'm a little freaked out. Please someone tell me I am not alone. (D is nearly 4 with probable ASD).

*Just to reiterate as I haven't posted correctly - DD probably doesn't understand the actual danger of fire/hot things - but she is told quite often.

Sounds like she is trying to figure out why fires are dangerous. If you think she is capable of learning this without starting to set them, you could start teaching her with concrete examples. I started with showing items / places that had been damaged by fire.

It's a bit tricky without accidentally teaching it's ok to touch your hot teacup, that fire engines are exciting etc, but it is possible. More risky if she has never experienced 'hot' as painful / worth avoiding though... I don't know if she has any sensory oddities?

Thanks, I did wonder if it is her way of working out why fires are dangerous - the advise is great, and come to think of it I don't think she has ever had the experience of touching something hot....and when she did it was a radiator and she didn't cry. She does have some sensory issues so maybe this is where it all stems from. lenin is ur ds asd? I have never come across this in NT children.

I once had to explain rape to a teen with asd. Obviously I explained it's a horrible thing to do to someone, that there were loads of serious consequences etc.

Next thing we know he's threateneing to rape people if they don't do as he wants

This was a few years ago and (afaik) he's not a sex offender

Its probably just a temporary obsession my DS has been seeminly obsessed with gory things yet he hates the sight of real blood and when sees himself bleeding thinks one drop of blood lost hes going to die , he also if sees anything slightly violent like after watching a childrens programme or reading a slightly violent book like beastquest (which is age appropriate for him) gets scared at bed time he loves it while hes watching it but remembers only the gory part later as when we watched pirates of the caribean the other day now he cant sleep at night he loved that while he watched it too , so like the others are saying maybe its ust a albeit odd obsession atm she will probably change to something else soon, would a visit to the fire station perhaps when its open day help maybe she will feel how hot it is when they do the chip pan on fire thing and realise oooh its not nice and very hot (but be safe) iykwim

Thanks for all your replies!

Hopefully it will pass...she went through a phase last year of saying she wanted to kill me - that soon passed and I'm still alive LOL.