Social services visit tomorrow. Do other parents with SN children have these visits?

[yukoncher]

They've become involved and are setting up a 'children in need' 'thing?' which they'll keep open until 4yr old DS reaches some goals they're concerned about, such as potty training.
I can't help thinking that they're not taking DS's SN seriously, I think they assume I could do more. I've tried a handful of times to potty train DS over the past two years. He really does not care about it!
The social worker and health visitor are doing a home visit tomorrow, so I've been tidying everything down to scrubbing the skirting boards.
I'm suspicious of them being involved.
Is this normal for children with special needs to be put on the children in need register. They were quick to say that it wasn't the 'child protection' register or anything.
Surely social services only get involved when they think there's neglect or abuse? can someone correct me of that?

Is this a CAF (Common Assessment Framework)? I think they are the latest method of a multi agency approach to assess children's needs, bringing together all children's services, Social Services, Education, medical etc. It wasn't going when my DS was going through DX. It's supposed to make sure that all the agencies are talking to each other, joined up thinking etc. Don't think it's anything to worry about, pretty normal procedure.

SS do get involved in some cases to support families where kids have SN, rather than for child protection reasons, can help with respite/holiday schemes etc, each area does things differently. have heard of some towns where a disability SW visits once as part of the ASD multi-disciplinary assessments, of other cases where SS became involved with kids with SN as part of "child in need" process. never had any involvement myself. these days I think SS can end up being involved via CAF. ask them to explain their role fully tomorrow, and try not to worry.

We had CAF before, it's gone up to social services because of DS needing support. I feel they put words in my mouth at the last meeting saying 'so you find his needs difficult to deal with sometimes' etc.
Suspicious about SS involvement :/

We have the odd SS visit too "so they can keep up with what ds's needs are". Have never got anything out of them and consider them a nuisance. Have to say some SWs are okay. Others you really need to watch. Would be hesitant about saying too much if I thought there was an agenda.

child in need is just that, a child in need of support. Sometimes they are just trying to help.

I hope they're just trying to help.
They just called to say they're coming 3 hours earlier than planned today.
I'm thinking of asking to see what they write about us.

Visit over! Phew. They are just involved because of DS's complex needs, and not because they think we're neglectful.
Relief.
Thanks guys, I shouldn't have worried so much

That's a relief. I would have had kittens if they had visited me 3 hours early, that's 3 hours less tidying time!

I know! and they stil insisted on going upstairs where I haven't hoovered. She liked my son's bedroom. I refused them access to my bedroom. I don't know what they've written. But I think It's okay :)

Good grief, why on earth would they want to see your bedroom? I would not be happy about that either; not cos I have something to hide, but well its mine!

It's standard practice to ask to see where kids sleep but I too would refuse them access to my bedroom too. Glad it went well