Hi Lenin
Couldn't sleep as too much going through my mind! I have been puzzling over DS for months and making lists of "symptoms" but things that I hadn't ever realised were things like:
Could you go and pick DS up from school and tell him that you were going to go to the shops without preparing him first? I had no idea that I couldn't do that but then immediately thought back to last week when I turned up at school and saw his new glasses halfway down his nose and realised that I had never got them adjusted. When I told him that we were going to go, it was an instant meltdown outside school (we live 3 doors away). All he wanted to do was to go home and watch cartoons as he was expecting to do. I had to bribe him with McDonalds to get him to get in the car.
His sleeping problems extended well beyond his only friend who is quite severely autistic (noticably so) stopping somewhere between 3 and 4.
His speech was more delayed than I thought having looked through his nursery EYFS records and at 2.6 was only joining together 2 or 3 words.
His eye contact is poor. I never ever noticed this. He was talking to her but looking away. When we turn up at my parents who we see at least 3 times a week, he hides away to start with and this is the same with all of our family. The deputy head commented a month ago that it was the first time that DS had looked at her and talked to her. He is in Year 1.
My mum was talking about how he wrote stories at home whereas at school his output is either minimal or rushed. I then realised that although he will write 12 page stories, they are all about superheroes ie Batman hit the joker and the joker hit him back. It is all mimicking cartoons and comics.
He now will not dress up in fancy dress costumes but used to be obsessed (I realise this now) with having costumes. She asked what he did in the costumes, did he act out the characters? No, he just wore the costumes!
He does not play in an imaginative way. He only plays with toys in the way that he has seen in real life. ie bakugan has to be played with as per the cartoon, batman as per the cartoon, cars don't get played with, duplo is always just a tower or I have to build the small lego (he doesn't have the fine motor control) exactly as per the instructions and it is then just put in the box and that is it.
I think it was a DISCO interview she did which was absolutely superb in making my mum and I think more around it. There was a lot of questioning about what he did when he was a toddler which was really hard to remember of course as he is nearly 6.
I feel that she will be really supportive on an ongoing basis and my friend whose son is autistic happens to have the same paed confirms that she really is brilliant. She had read the pages and pages of OT & vision therapy reports and my letters prior to me coming in in addition to the questionnaires from me and the school. It really is a breath of fresh air as I now have a supportive paed, private OT and NHS behavioural optometrist and is in such stark comparison to the support that DS/ us have had from the SENCO and class teacher. However I do have the family and pupil support worker on my side and on the plus side, the SENCO retires next year 
Sorry for the huge essay......... great to get it all down!