I feel sick...

[Carrotsandcelery]

A confidential document regarding my ds has gone home with the wrong pupil.

The parent of the child it has gone home with is not a particularly discreet or sensitive person either.

I have not told anyone in the village where I live about my ds's problems and this parent would have been the very last on the list tbh.

I feel totally sick.

I have written to the school and asked them to contact the family to ask them to keep the contents of the document confidential but that won't be put into action until tomorrow.

I feel totally helpless and worried sick for my ds.

What do I do?

I have posted this in chat too to see if it will get more traffic.

We have had a terrible time at school and everything had only just begun to settle down.

My poor ds.

I'm so sorry, Carrotsandcelery, that is absolutely shocking! Do they always use 'pupil post' for sensitive documents? That's a terrible policy. I hope it was at least in a sealed envelope. This was a few days ago, now, have you had any comeback?

This board is really quiet, most people post pretty much everything on the SN children's board. Hope you got some good advice on Chat.

Hi there Ellen thanks for replying.

It was all a false alarm in the end thank goodness. The teacher still had the document on her desk.

It was a home school link jotter in which the teacher and I discuss his behaviour, successes etc. It had a lengthy discussion of a recent meeting with the school doctor in it so it was pretty sensitive.

I have learnt to check his bag in the playground as soon as I collect him to make sure it is in his bag, just in case, although his teacher is very switched on and excellent at her job.

Bloody hell, I have a home school exercise book that has all sorts of sensitive stuff in it that just goes back and forth in DS2's bookbag. I've never thought about it getting in the wrong bookbag, God, it might have already! It doesn't come home sometimes and I have just assumed the TA forgot to put it in DS's bag.

Thanks Carrotsandcelery now got something else to worry about.

Oh no! We will all be paranoid now.

I think it gave his teacher a shock too when she realised the risk and the fallout if she made an error.

I have resolved to check his bag in the playground, while the teacher is still standing there, just incase, from now on.

As if it wasn't complicated enough!

The other option would be for the book to go in a private envelope every night that gets resealed every day. Someone would have to be a massive beak to look in something like that. It would be a bit of a pain for the teacher though.

It just wouldn't happen, candc, they'd have to have an enormous stock of envelopes! I think if it's really sensitive, put it in a letter in an envelope, and leave the home school diary for day to day stuff, and get them to do the same.

Just thinking who now knows that DS2 (11) is still a bit dodgy with his no. twos?

I doubt anyone knows Ellen - if they did you would know they did - people are just not that subtle.

Good idea about the letters - the envelope idea was never going to get off the ground.

I don't tell the world about ds's problems but there are only 2 or 3 mums I would hate to find out about them. The person I thought had his folder was one of them.

Most people are kind and would afford more understanding, really, if they knew.

Too true, most of DS2's class know he's got ASD, it's fairly obvious, unfortunately, and the class are very accommodating. In fact it was his annual review today and apparantly some of his class are too accommodating, he gets them to do lots of stuff for him that he doesn't like! (Including being out in rounders etc, they offer to be out instead of him as they know he'll get really upset)

Only a couple of snotty mums...........

Anyway, off to school pick up.