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Feeling really sad for DS

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madmadhouse · 09/05/2011 13:56

I knew this would happen sooner or later.
DS is really struggling at school and with his speech/communication.He finds it hard to understand instructions,and has to be told afew times before he sort of understands.
I'm waiting for him to be assessed by learning support.But was told last friday they do one term on and one term off.This is their off term so DS won't be assessed untill september.
Any last week DS cried he didn't want to go to school.He has never cried about school before,and he's in year 1 now.
Then on thursday and friday he cried in the playground.His friends were being horrible to him.He just stood there by himself crying,till i went to him.
I think the other children have noticed DS is struggling,and they don't what him to play with them.
I feel so hopeless and don't know what to do to help im.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 09/05/2011 14:10

Would not wait in any event until September; such a delay won't help either of you. Your son is being failed here by school, btw have you spoken to the SENCO and his class teacher?.

Is your DS under the care of any person like a speech and language therapist currently or developmental pead?. Would speak to your GP and get this person on side too.

What have the school said to you re DS: how else are they trying to help him if Learning support (having an "off term" is completely unacceptable) are not on the ball?. I would certainly complain to Learning Support about their lack of support!.

Was wondering if you have thought too about applying for a Statement for your son.

Sorry for all the questions, would like to help.

zzzzz · 09/05/2011 14:17

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Floopytheloopy · 09/05/2011 14:36

mad, I, like so many others on here can completely relate to what you're feeling.

I know my dd is struggling to make friends and I know she gets teased about being immature for her age. It's heartbreaking to hear about it happening, but when you actually see it it's completely crushing.

I know these children who were teasing your ds are still very young, but at school level, they really should be being taught about bullying and how it isn't acceptable.

Did you speak to the school about that particular incident? If so, did they seem genuinely suprised?

Becaroooo · 09/05/2011 19:10

sigh....this could be my ds1 you are talking about!

Year 1 was a disaster for him - he was called names and told he was "slow" and came home after a couple of weeks in year 1 and told me he "had a stupid brain"

You need to make the teacher and HT aware of what is going on, and also make it clear if things dont happen wrt the bullying that you will write to the board og governors, OFSTED and LEA.

Has you son been assessed by the SENCO (although a lot of bloody good that did my ds1! )

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madmadhouse · 10/05/2011 09:51

Thanks for the replies,and sorry i didn't get back to this yesterday.
DS is on a IEP, but i don't think it's really helped him.He can't really read or write,apart from his name.And like i said he has problems following/understanding instructions.
He said last week he doesn't like school any more,because the work is hard and the teacher won't help him.He has always loved going even pre-school,and is usally so happy.
Then on top of that his teacher left on friday,and he had a new teacher yesterday.This hasn't helped DS because he doesn't like changes.
A speech and language therapist comes into school to see DS,but not regular,only afew times per term.I think this is more to give the teachers some ideas on how to help DS.
I have asked in school today for an appointment with his teacher (who i haven't met yet) and SENCO.So hopefully i will know by home time when the appointment is.
You are right it is bullying and its not acceptable,so i will talk to his teacher about that too.
I haven't seen my GP.I have thought about it but didn't know if they would help.I'm going to ring now for an appointment there too. What should i expect from the GP.Sorry i sound so clueless,but its all new to me.

Thanks everybody.

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Becaroooo · 10/05/2011 10:11

I asked for my ds1 to be assessed by the school SENCO. He was. She basically said that he would "catch up" 2 years down the line and we are no better off

2 mnths ago I went to the GP as asked for a child development referral...we have out appt this month.

I just told him of my concerns and that ds1 gets no help at school. (he ha since been put on an IEP but tbh I dont hink they are worth the paper they are written on!)

My son was just like yours...a happy, confident boy til he started year 1 - and the commencement of formal education.

Sadly, I think the only reason I am being listened to now is that
a) ds1 is 8 next month and
b) we are also paying for private therapy

Triggles · 10/05/2011 11:10

madmadhouse have you met the speech therapist and spoken to them at all? We meet with those that are working with DS2 regularly and ask for regular reports on how he is progressing and what they plan on working on, even if it's just an informal chat (and then jot down notes about it afterwards so you know what was said). It's good that you're going through the GP and getting a referral. It might also be helpful to speak to whoever puts together his IEP (senco??) and point out that you're not happy with how things are going for your son. How long has he been on an IEP? Have you been to the IEP reviews?

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