how do you cope with all the crap when knackered?

[baka]

Another ridiculous night last night- 4 hours sleep (ds2- has gone from 12 hours a night to a nightmare-we're moving him from hammock to cot) Bah. BIggest problem is I find it really hard to keep my temper when ds1 starts arsing around. Every morning getting him dressed is ridiculous- he thinks it is hilarious to get undressed as I am getting him dressed, runs off etc- and of course the bus is coming. I allow myself 20 minutes to battle with him at the moment and usually do the "dressed first then biscuit routine" which speeds it up a bit. But oh boy I find it hard to keep my temper when shattered. Usually I can kind of detach from it all and remain calm and effective, but this morning ended up shouting (pointless as it'll just encourage him).

Of course all this dressed stuff followed him throwing milk on the floor, chucking toys into the cellar, putting a dirty bottle into the tumble dryer, climbing on the dresser, trying to get us to put the microwave on, stripping off and charging naked aorund the place. All before being up for an hour.

Agh. Just a rant really feel free to ignore. Although if anyone knows a good meditation technique that can be used whilst in the midst of it all so I can remain calm po faced and just repeat "dressed first then biscuit" I'll be all ears (eyes!)

durr- ds3 I mean is being moved - ds2 wouldn't fit in a hammock!

how old is he>
you ahev only one?

ohsorry read thread

when oyu are really tied you need to

1. lowe your expectations
2. lower your voice 3.go really slowly

sound slike ds1 needs a sorting out wihth a mornign routine

Bloody hell! No advice as I can't keep my temper either... and I consider myself to be someone who doesn't HAVE a temper..... I seem to have developed one!

he does sound to be a pita

thinkoyu need some rule reinforcement

best you do one thing a day so you dont overload yourself or otherwise you will drop!!

No help here either. I turn into a shrieking harridan when I've had less than 5 or 6 hours sleep. I know the usual advice is to leave the room for 10 seconds etc but, as you know, it's impossible with ASD.

if only it was that simple cod.

The problem at the moment is different from usual. he isn't being difficult in that shitty I'm going to trash everything and destroy the place ASD way. He just thinks it is hilarious to be obtuse. So it takes 2 people to get him off the school bus, to get him into the house is a scuffle, continual climbiong on the frisdge freezer, posting stuff out the cat flap and as of yesterday throwing things out the wondow.

it's like a light has switched on and whereas before he was happy to quite of mull about blank and stimming he now has to be doing something but of course has zero play skills. So he gets into everything. Under these circumstance I have to remain calm as a raised voice is mega reinforcement!

Does anyone do anything therapy/ABA wise after school. I'm kind of loathe to because its a long day and he's little, but I wonder if just keeping him occupied is the answer.

That's true CT and that's what I would do with the other 2. I do it sometimes (like today when he threw the milk all over the floor). I looked at it- he was creased up pissing himself and I just walked away.

had to go back to clear it up soon or it would have been everywhere! Of course by then he had a speck of milk on him so had stripped off completely

I would definitely consider some sort of ABA/teaching session after school, even if its self-help orientated or very simple and not recognisable as teaching iyswim. At his age I think its a good idea and beneficial. People used to feel sorry for DS having school and then a 2hr session but he was still going long after and had PLENTY of time to mess around. of course IF you can organise it/pay for it!!!

Oh, sorry Cod, holding my aching ribs about the rule enforcement

I'd use dp's so that would be ok. I think we need to look into it-downtime is chaos at the moment!

glad I'm not the only one who spluttered at rule enforcement

oh GOD

the SHAME!!!!!
have just realised this is on sn

am so embarassed

amd going ot have to self flounce
oh ia ams os sorry guys
[shame}

really sorry
ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh god
no have to go ad= m to mebarrssed
thoguth " god htis kid is having hte life of riley" didnt relaise asd
will shut up large fishy gob

did i say iwas sorry?

Cod its jimjams - she's changed her name and confused you.

hello
im cod and im asorry state fo a fish

PMSL God I wouldn't let a 6 year old NT kid climb on the fridge freezer. (I don't let ds1 either but somehow that doesn't seem to matter to him )

oh phew
sorry all

no suggestions but just wanted to let you know that I usually lose it big time with dd1 when I am tired and it has been a battle..... as much as I know shouting doesn't work - it sure makes me feel a little better for just a brief moment. If it is any consolation dd2 has only just started sleeping through at almost 1.

eidsvold I'm gutted though ds3 was sleeing through from about 2 months until the last few weeks (he's 10 months). He started trying to turn in his hammock which you can;t do, but of course when he stirs in the cot it doesn't rock him back to sleep. He did sleep through 2 nights ago.

The main problem I have with losing it is that ds1 just loves it- thinks its hilarious so he's actually trying to make me lose it iyswim. And he knows which buttons to press. Bollocks that boy hasn't got any theory of mind he's brimming with it!

baka - can't really help with DS1 but DS3 I think you just have to persist with and he will get used to it. Its just hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you are so tired.

Ho ho ho, Cod, still holding aching ribs. ALWAYS feel free to come on SN and don't be embarrassed whatever you say Actually, we're missing Fio so we need someone to shake us up!!!

baka - I constantly lose it with ds at the moment because I am tired and ill all the time. Its so hard not to!! I am really trying to stay calm.