where to turn?

[CinnamonPretzel]

I think I'm close to my marriage failing :(
DH is popping to his mums in a while for some advice...
Either way, with everything going on right now with DS, I can't give anymore than I am and can't promise anything will change iminently.
Has anyone else been through this, what do I tell the DC :'(

Oh no, Cinnamon. That's not good. Is it because of your problems with your DS do you think? Is he taking up all your time and energy and DH feeling left out? If so, that's really unfair. So sorry. ((((hugs))))

Oh no cinnamon I'm so sorry :( me and dH have had a rough year with both our DCs and don't think nookie has been even thought about for at least 7 months! ( oh dear has it been that long!!) but we try and do something special at weekends like a DVD and takeaway, wine, chocs, crisps etc etc. So although we can't go out together (no family to babysit and no one to watch kids) we have special time in. Could you and dH try and make some time together to do something similar or have a few hours out house together?? It's such hard work with SN kids I feel very isolated with no family nearby but luckily have mates to keep me sane. I hope you both manage to get through it together. Xx

Tbh both DC are very time consuming, on top of work, this, that etc.
They go to bed about 7 but generally dont fall asleep until 9 or 10. By that time I have no get up and go
It's been like this for a good few years or more - way before any dx :(
We don't have any close family and what we do have are limited due to age and their work times etc. Don't really have any friends... We have hardly any holiday time where we are trying to split it out, so DC don't go to DGPs too much.
Instead of it getting better and us getting closer with the troubles, we are getting further apart. We have NO us time and I struggle with intimacy with the kids around... [cblush]
Maybe we are just growing apart - I don't know, but it scares me.
I'm not sure I have the strength left to fight it :(

X post - we do the movie thing but that's not enough
I'm in a hole and the sides are too high to claw my way out.

Oh no you poor thing :( I have no words of wisdom except that I've often felt me and dH are growing apart then we seem to gel again. I guess your situation sounds a little more dire and you are heading towards whether you need to decide whether you are going to stay together or not. It's so very difficult especially when kids are concerned never mind SN kids. Sometimes I think we get so wrapped up in our kids that out hubbies take a backseat for a while some hubbies are ok with this and some need a little more reassurance. Good luck mate hope you sort things out x