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Friday night - waaay beyond tired thread ....

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 20:18

Evening ladies

Why hasn't anybody started this thread earlier?

Tis gone eight o'clock!

At this point, I should probably say that my dh says I have been acting like a cross between a petulant teenage and a cantankerous old biddy since the moment I opened my eyes this morning - and if I'm honest, he's right!

So, how are we all doing?

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 21:31

Oh, I am too slow for this tonight.

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asdx2 · 28/04/2011 21:41

Ellen my older daughter's friend from infants pulled out his willy to show her, his mum was mortified. Dd looked totally nonplussed because ds had been naked for the last five years so she saw one every day Ds only started wearing pants in the house at 10 when dd got to two and started giving it a tug if she got near him.

EllenJane1 · 28/04/2011 21:44

asdx2 [cgrin] !

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 21:44

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Ineedalife · 28/04/2011 21:51

Well I am off camping tomorrow with Dd3 and another family, we have been away with them before and it was quite successful.

Trouble is I am knackered, I haven't stopped this holiday and have done a party for Grandaughters 3rd birthday today, it was lovely but I could have done without it really.

Never mind maybe I can chill out on the campsite.

Have a good weekend all.

EllenJane1 · 28/04/2011 21:51

But, but, but, how?

EllenJane1 · 28/04/2011 21:53

Ooops, crossed with Ineedalife. Have a good camp.

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 22:09

Ineed, we are going camping here in the summer. Paid our deposit yesterday - I can't wait!

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HelensMelons · 28/04/2011 22:16

Lol asdx2 your post made me laugh!

Moose, that looks lovely, I have been to clifden and it's a nice town - it's a lovely part of the world!

CinnamonPretzel · 28/04/2011 22:17

Oh I thought it was just me...
The DC just can't put things away - I don't know what to do with them. I've even created a tidy routine thingy Its not just their things though, I seem to constantly have washing on the go and piles high in the living room on the armchair. Juggling work, kids, course, me time [cblush]
I can't have people over, takes all day to get it clean. At Christmas, I tidy for three days! :o
shocking haha

EllenJane1 · 28/04/2011 22:19

Ooooh, are taking the ferry? It looks beautiful.

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 22:39

Yes, we go over to Wexford every year, to stay in my Dad's old house, so either Pembroke or Fishguard. This year we are going via Holyhead to Dublin and then driving over to the West Coast.

It took a lot persuading ds1 and we had to agree to do whole week and weekend at Dad's house as well. We have been every year with him since he was born and he loves it, but the rest of us, although we love it there, really need to do something different this year. We were going to do four days at each place, but it was no dice with ds - a whole seven days or the deal was off. Suffice to say there was much sobbing and trauma when we first mooted the idea, but he's coming round to it now - the lure of rockpools helped. We decided to do the camping first and the house second, as if we went to the house first, I don' think we'd be able to drag ds1 away.

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 22:41

Helen, that's reassuring to hear. We did Dingle and Kerry when ds was 18 months old, but haven't been any further up the West Coast.

I've always wanted to go to Galway - two of my dc's lullaby/sleepy songs are from that region 'Galway Shawl' and 'Banna Strand'.

I really want a Cobb oven to take with us, but dh says I will have to have it for my birthday. Humph!

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EllenJane1 · 28/04/2011 23:11

We've never been to the same place twice, just to avoid that sort of problem! We are going back somewhere this year, hope it doesn't become too much of a habit.

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moosemama · 28/04/2011 23:31

Its been great over the years. We have a house that's probably more than twice the size of our house to stay in - for free. There is an 13 km stretch of white sand beach, 2 minutes from the house, which has a sandbank not far out so its a really safe place for kids and we know where we can take ds1 without him getting stressed or anxious.

Dh and I have always enjoyed just having the break of a change of scenery from home, somewhere where ds felt totally comfortable - but I have been over just about every year since 1973 (6 weeks every school holiday) and have been everywhere and seen everything and dh has been going over with me since we got married in 1992.

It has been fun showing my children around all the places I explored as a child and showing them all the sights, but we have been everywhere and done everything with them, several times, now and the last couple of years I've found the whole experience depressing. All the effort of planning, packing and travelling to essentially live by the same rules we do at home - all driven by ds1's needs. We desperately need a change and ds2 was also getting bored of sitting on the beach digging a huge castle and moat with ds1 all day every day for two weeks.

We did manage to go camping a couple of years ago, when I was expecting dd and there was some building work being done on the house so it wasn't available and he took to it like a fish to water. I'm hoping the combination of camping, a private white sand beach and rock pools means he'll be fairly accepting - if not, we have the week at the house to bring his stress levels back down and give him the holiday he wants as well.

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Ineedalife · 29/04/2011 13:31

Wow moose that looks lovely.

We have also been going to my cousins flat in anglesy periodically since Dd3 was little but last year it had started to become so tied up in her routines that we decided we needed a break from it.

We haven't revisited any campsites in the last 3 years as there are just so many, we haven't needed to but there are a few we would like to go back to.

We haven't made it to wales yet today as Dd3 puked in the night[ see my Aaarrrggghhh thread] .

We will try again tomorrow.

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moosemama · 29/04/2011 13:50

I think that's where camping, particularly having a campervan, helps when you have a child with AS. In effect, you take your home with you and no matter which campsite you go to the basics stay the same, so they feel fairly secure.

Sorry to hear dd is poorly, haven't read your thread yet, but will in a minute. Hope she recovers quickly so that you can still get to Wales.

Funny story, I have this morning, successfully convinced both my boys that Miss Botty - the opera singer off Thomas the Tank's first name is Big. Miss Big Botty! They totally fell for it, despite the fact the dvd dd was watching clearlys says in several episodes that her name is Alicia Botty. I suppose I will have to fess up soon - but for the moment its amusing me on a fundamentally childish level.

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Ineedalife · 29/04/2011 15:06

Thats funny moose, Dd3 would love that, toilet humour is her favourite.

I get what you are saying about the camper van and I suppose the tent is the same, Dd3 always has the same pod in the tent and that seems to help her settle in.

She is always quick to try to establish routines when we are away such as swimming before lunch and ice cream after tea, if we are not on the ball she can have us all organised within 2 days.

I remember Jackie Jackson saying in her book Multicoloured Mayham that she struggles with her children setting up routines but has yet to discover how to prevent herself from doing something once!!

I know this feeling well and holidays seem to provoke a reaction from Dd3 whereby she needs to be in total control of everything we do.

Luckily we all love being away and no matter how hard it is we still keep going back for more

The SALT has given us a couple of really good ideas for this year and have picked up a couple off the forum so I am hoping to smooth the ride a little.

signandsmile · 29/04/2011 19:48

oh I missed you all yesterday...

I loved the miss big botty...

and we are planning a first camp this summer, gonna be a wuss and try in nanny's garden for the first time then go in summer hols with other mum and her kids, (her dh working, mine just too wonky too camp.)

went to shops today arrived just about the time 'they' went into the church. randomn bloke said to me 'why aren't you watching the wedding?' not nastily, just like he was confused to see me there... I said 'because I have a life....'

Oddest comment of the day...

ah well, the wine is open and the cheesecake calls...

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moosemama · 29/04/2011 22:08

Hi sign, I'm here. Ooooo cheesecake

I didn't watch the wedding either, not in the slightest bit interested in it to be honest.

Have had a really lazy day today. All I've managed to achieve is putting the Tesco delivery away and dh has had all the dcs out working on the camper with him all afternoon - ah ... peace.

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signandsmile · 30/04/2011 08:33

Hey moose cheesecake was lovely... morrisons millionaires cheesecake, so caramel and choc...

I have to do something about my weight tho....

trouble is I kinda slip down the list of priorities, IYSWIM... (and I know it's gonna be a bugger to do... really need to find my susie orbach book and start the whole 'am I actually hungry?' 'if not, why am I eating?' 'what do I really need?' process, )

ATM I am a blacmange on the sofa,

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