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not sure if I am being unreasonable to be upset but...

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planomum · 24/04/2011 02:30

Last year I took the governors of DS's primary school to tribunal for disability discrimination and won with the tribunal finding that the governing body discriminated against him in the curriculum and his school life generally and in respect of specific events like the school christmas play. I also took the LA to the ombudsman and won again with the LA being found guilty of maladministration in DS's statement process. Also went to the information commissioner about information and pictures of DS given out without consent (complaint upheld). Complaint about physical restraint in school still ongoing.

Anyway have now moved to the US and we are very happy and DS is in a brilliant school but we went through a year of hell and his new school has had to work so hard to persuade DS that he is safe at school. DS was left in a very fragile mental state (self harming) and is very anxious about returning to the Uk even for a holiday.

One of the governors of the school also a LA councillor is standing for election to the welsh assembly and since I am registered to vote from overseas I received a letter from him this week seeking my vote and putting forward that he stood for excellence in education and promoting his standing as a school governor as part of his election campaign. Given that he knew about, endorsed and supported the school staff in the discrimination, and the way my son suffered at a school where he was and is a governor and also knew of the fight we had to get the LA to comply with the statementing process when he is a councillor I am just a bit upset seeing this as being two faced at best and rubbing salt in a not yet healed wound.

I am so tempted to write to the chair of the conservative party asking how they can put forward a person who has been found to have discriminated on the grounds of disability against a 7 year old but not sure if that would have any effect or would just be ignored. I live everyday with the consequences of what was done to DS.

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Gigglebizmizz · 24/04/2011 06:56

That sounds absolutely horrendous what you and your whole family have been through. There is definitely no point flagging this up with the conservative party they are not going to remove a candidate who they have spent a lot of time and money promoting best way to hit them is to highlight this to the labour party candidate and I would also let the local press know your story unless the local people know what he has done they will continue to vote for him.

bochead · 24/04/2011 09:58

^wot she said^ word needs to get out & it won't via his own party

EllenJane1 · 24/04/2011 10:37

What a git! Unfortunately, unless the local rag is anti-Tory you'll not get very far, and Labour won't be allowed to make personal attacks, but I still think it's worth trying to drop the bastard in it.

We had a different problem with a Lib Dem MP who wouldn't support us when we were fighting the closure of our special school, because it was the Lib Dem county council's policy. The local press were crap. We had a Lib Dem county councillor on our board of Govs, too. He just stopped coming to meetings. We felt like there was no-one to turn to. Luckily the Lib Dems lost the council at the next election and the policy was reversed. It was the only time in my life that I was pleased the Tories won something.

cornwallia · 24/04/2011 10:52

It depends on a very practical level on how much stress you want to put yourself through.

I completely understand what you mean. I am involved in a statementing appeal, complaints against two NHS depts, and a LGO complaint and it takes over your life.

What I have discovered is that people lie and cheat and invent things to cover themselves so you have done very well to be vindicated on so many fronts.

If you are able to write to the local paper/party and don't mind getting embroiled in something messy, do it.

If you want to move on, protect your sanity and enjoy your son, don't feel obliged to keep fighting.

Your mental health comes first!

EllenJane1 · 24/04/2011 10:58

Don't listen to cornwallia's voice of reason! Hang him!

Gotabookaboutit · 25/04/2011 01:11

Planomum -could you PM me the name? I'min Wales an am erh politically active but no a member of any party and would be very interetsed in who this is

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