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CRAZYCREW · 18/04/2011 16:27

Okay I have got Noah my fourth child and he is hard work but some children are hard work aren't they and I as a poarent expect this.

He never loves me though or puts his hands up to be cuddled though at that worries me. He has a dummy and although only has it while tired and at night if I take it away as hate them he scremas and goes hyasterical (not too worried about this)

He has to come down stairs when wakes and he has to sit down in the same place with his blanket just so. Even when poorly he never likes to be cuddled but I also know some children are aindependent.

He does make eye contact and he does play. He does hit and sctach other children but this is more with my grandson when he is in the house. He goes to play group and they ahve not mentioned anything.

Other things are he goes mad if I cahnge is car seat in the car to a different seat (have seven seats). he LIKE SINGING BUT ALWAYS WANTS THE SAME SONGS PLAYING OVER AND over again and he would listen to it all afternoon.

He does speak though and speaks well and if i ask him to get something he understands well.

He cires lots more so than any of my freinds childrens although he is just two.
He feeds himself wel but a very very poor eater. He does have lots of ear and throat infections though.

It was my frriend and my eldest daughter at twenty that suggested i MENTION TO THE dR.He goes to bed at 7 but wakes regular in the night. I do find him hard and very demanding and i have been a childminder with lots of draining also for the past five years so I am not silly in my thinking...

My question is what sign should i be looking for in a just two year old please

Thanks in advance

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CRAZYCREW · 18/04/2011 16:35

need to add he has been on antiobitics for ear infections for 6 weeks now and always is on and off them.... just read that in a post can that be a sign or not? I am very worried but wnat to know what to do to help my little man.

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smallwhitecat · 18/04/2011 16:42

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chocjunkie · 18/04/2011 16:52

DD (3) had loads of ear infections in her first 2 years. they can be very painful and DD's eating and sleeping was awful whenever she had an ear infection (she got grommets in the end to sort her ears but she has also other issues as well - not talking a lot and suspected ASD).

you say your DS has been on medication for 6 weeks for an ear infection?? that is quite long. has he been seen by an ENT consultant? has his hearing been checked (esp with regard to the constant ear infection)?

if he is not hearing well, it could also affect his behaviour... I am sure some other mums with ASD children will have some wise words for you but from experience I would say the ears need looking into as well.

just wonder, does he talk at all?

Gigglebizmizz · 18/04/2011 18:15

Definitely agree get the ears checked ask to be referred immediately to ENT as constant ear infections are a sign of glue ear (very common) my DD got vents put in at age 3 her speech was very delayed. I think the fact his speech is good is a good sign my DD was very very slow and she was also slow to walk she also banged her head at night in the cot as a comfort thing to get to sleep she has just been dx as ASD she is 4. If you are worried go and tell your GP you would like to be reffered to community paeditrician do not be fobbed off and do not let people tell you you are worrying over nothing. You know your child best it's better to be seen early pre-school children get priority if you leave it to P2 or P3 there can be really lengthy waiting lists. Hope this helps a wee bit.x

CRAZYCREW · 19/04/2011 08:15

Hi there I had his ears checked last year my an ent specialist and all was okay but it has started all again. Yes he has been on three lots of antibiotics for 6 weeks the course just finished was for two weeks. He also on piriton daily prescribed again by gp. When I asked about his behaviour he said its too early and I was silly to be asking.

This morning we got up and he had to take his blanket down stairs and you have not got to touch him and he has to have a special way its so funny.

I dont think deaf at all as does talk well and feeds himself very well too. He does eat hardly anything though and honestly mean that. He does give you a kiss but very very rare and he never initiates being picked up for a love ever.

He is also funny with clothes and shoes and does like you to take his shoes off and may of times just for ease let him have them in his cot. He does make eye contact though and he does understand what you are saying to him. I spend alot of time with him and talk to him to try and get answers.

Thanks for your help and yes will google.

Nicola and Noah

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justaboutWILLfinishherthesis · 19/04/2011 10:03

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chocjunkie · 19/04/2011 13:55

definitely! if you think something is not right with DS then please don't let them fob you off.

my old GP would not refer my DD (the usual all-kids-develop-different bullshit, HV did a couple of "assessments" on DD and told me she is fine and the problem is me (overambitious mum - expecting too much Angry). went to a different GP and we finally got the referral. we have since seen the salt and DD was diagnosed with severe (!) s&l delay and we have a appointment with the paed very soon.

either change GP or go back again and put your foot down! good luck!

ilovesprouts · 19/04/2011 20:33

my sons consultant said he wont test my ds2 for autisem !!

CRAZYCREW · 21/04/2011 09:29

Thanks... can I ask you what makes you think your child has autism? - 9iloveprouts... Yesterday we were in town and we had bought Noah a triain in a carry bag the day before and becuase it had come out he sat there and screamed and screamed and i calmly explained that we could not get in back in and for it to stay and he sreamed and scremed like I was killing him. I guess you have to think at two it is a very trying time though as terrible twos as such. My son does not play well with others and pushes and hits too which I hate and try to turn round positive. I really am not sure as we wenmt to the seaside two day ago and he was lovely and went inb the pool with his brother and was very very good although he plasyed very much alone.

I just sense something not right maybe I am wronbg?

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post · 21/04/2011 09:39

Yes, if you feel like you're not being heard/ fobbed off ask to see someone else. I lost over a year of time when I could have been helping ds2 because I was told there was nothing wrong, and I felt silly and guilty for thinking there was when I bloody KNEW there was something up (though I didn't then suspect autism, I knew really nothing about it), and early intervention can make so much difference. If it turns out that there isn't anything, you've lost nothing.

Might also be worth looking online at some of the techniques/ approaches to support children than you might want to play with at home; if he's got specific areas he finds difficult you might find something useful, even if he's not ever going to be diagnosed. We used the son-rise approach, but there are lots of different things out there; see what you like the look of. Good luck.

lisad123isasnuttyasaboxoffrogs · 21/04/2011 09:39

first signs for us, was different with both my girls.
DD1 would scream always and nothing you could do would help. She would spend hours doing the same thing again and again, she refused hot food at lunch time as its not "normal" to her, hated people, crowds, very worried little girl and everything had to be the same every day.
DD2 never really cried, didnt like cuddles, play for ages alone (ever at playgroup), hates noises, certain tags in clothes, certain materials, spins on the spot, flaps her hands, flicks her eyes, licks things, plays same games/dvd over and over, echolalia, speech regression, tip toe walks, doesnt sleep well, screeches and talks in words that no one understands.

Both girls were phyiscally delayed and have certain obessive behaviours.

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