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What age did your SN child toilet train?

22 replies

MarioandLuigi · 15/04/2011 17:31

Just wondering what the average is. DS is 4 and has no interest or awareness so I think he will be starting school in Nappies.

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needcoffee1982 · 15/04/2011 17:38

still trying to train mine at 7! and failing miserably!

EllenJane1 · 15/04/2011 17:47

Ds2 (ASD) was dry normal age, 2.5ish. Still not reliably clean at 11!

NorthernSky · 15/04/2011 18:06

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Triggles · 15/04/2011 18:07

DS2 trained (for the most part - occasional accident - as long as reminded regularly) during the day at about 4 yrs. He will be 5 in July and is not anywhere close to being trained at night.

intothewest · 15/04/2011 18:39

DS is seven and we are having long periods(sometimes all day) when he is dry-not clean and it seems as though it's a sensory issue as he CAN go on the loo

I thought DS would never get there,but he is making progress

starfishmummy · 15/04/2011 19:02

12 and still trying.......

eatyourveg · 15/04/2011 19:23

ds2 (ASD + MLD) was 7

ds3 (ASD) was 4.5

signandsmile · 15/04/2011 19:30

ds, ASD and LD, dry, (if reminded) at 4.25, clean at 4.5. (althou he is easier, as he always does a poo at the same time each day, after bath, so is easy to prompt.) not dry at night,

Best advice HV gave me was don't worry, just let it go until he is ready, and that he will take as long as he takes...

PigeonMalteaserMadness · 15/04/2011 19:55

DS is almost four too and has just started to want to use the loo for a performance wee But getting clean is going to be a real problem because he has the bowel issues that many autistic children have.

It's really difficult isn't it? I bought some cheap elasticated pull-on school trousers to see how they were size-wise for September and while they are too long in the legs and big in the waist they are too tight over his pull-ups.

Then I realised that's why the special school allow the children to wear track-suit bottoms until they are eleven

We have this which he adores as he is motivated by animals and this which I am planning to unveil when the weather gets better so he can (perhaps) go independently.

School do have to make reasonable adjustments though so please don't worry too much

TheCrunchyside · 15/04/2011 20:14

3.5 dry and at 5 still not clean but he waits for night time for poos so only one accident at school yay. Ds has gdd and asd

WyrdSister · 15/04/2011 21:50

In the exact same position as you MarioandLuigi. DS1 (severe ASD) is 4, in nappies and no interest.

He's got no real understanding and is non verbal though which makes it so hard as you can't ask him when he needs to go or get him to tell me.

Am just hoping when his 17 month old brother starts to potty train at some point that he'll take a bit of an interest!

NorthernSky · 15/04/2011 22:04

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BakeliteBelle · 15/04/2011 22:09

15 and still trying (with the occasional success)

WyrdSister · 15/04/2011 22:19

Thanks NorthernSky, I am really hoping he does notice at school, there is always hope!

We've found that he must be noticing other little things that his brother is doing, however small, because he has tried to copy them later. At the time though you can be convinced he's not looking or paying attention!

NorthernSky · 15/04/2011 22:35

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pigletmania · 15/04/2011 23:06

Started to train dd at 3.1 years, reliably dry in the day 3.3years, not dry at night, no hope until she is about 5 me thinks.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 15/04/2011 23:21

Theyre all different. My severely autistic, non verbal neice was dry aged 3, my asd dd was dry age 3.5 My son was 4.5....I never thought we'd get there, we took it very slowly, literally room by room, over 2 years. The week after school said he wasn't ready to train he went in fully dry and very rarely had an accident.

Otoh, my nephew has just trained aged 9, he's like his sis,severe autism, non verbal etc

whatever17 · 16/04/2011 01:54

3.75 years out of nappies but still problems "wiping" till about 8.

WyrdSister · 16/04/2011 07:11

We have tried in the past to actually sit him on the potty, but have definitely learned that forcing does no good. He just gets so upset and you get absolutely nowhere. The school I'm hoping he goes to deals a lot with ASD kids so I'm hoping they'll help us take the right approach.

Marne · 16/04/2011 09:44

Dd2 toilet trained 2 weeks before starting school last september, we tried numbers of times before that with no success and then she did it within a few days, she's still in nappies at night but dry at school.

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 16/04/2011 09:56

my eldest is nearly 12 and is still not fully toilet trained. In so far as he soils his pants at night. other than that, he wees fine. He doesn't wear nappies but he does poo into his pants several times a week. luckily, he only ever opens his bowels in the late evening, so it's not something that affects him at school.

My youngest (10 and a half) came out of nappies before he was 6 and he's not had any soiling problems. Sometimes he has wet or soiled himself because he's been engrossed in something and not prepared to go to loo but nothing like my older one, who I am convinced actually has a physical bowel problem. Will anyone listen to me? will they bollocks.

They were both still wearing nappies at 5 & 6. one morning I took the wet nappy off my youngest and put a clean one on. he took it off, threw it across the room and never wore another one! My eldest then didn't want to wear nappies because the younger one wasn't, but tbh, he really should have carried on because he still soiled. I think he still had to wear nappies at night for a bit longer. but he kicked up such a fuss that we let him go without in the end.

We never forced it. Well, I tried at normal potty training age but quickly realised that was the wrong approach. so we just made potties available, made sure they knew what they were for (neither of them were particularly verbal at the time either so not talking about it!) and waited for them to be ready.

blueShark · 16/04/2011 09:58

DS was dry at 3 with looots of effort and clean just before 4. When I say lots of effort I mean I had my parents as well myself watching him every minute for few days until he got the idea. He liked spending time in the bathroom flashing toilets and washing hands so getting him on a toilet wasnt a problem with an immediate reward to flash and wash hands afterwards. A visual of the whole routine did the tric.

Also dont forget that their developmental age is more important than their birth date age. DS is nearly 5 but with all the delays he is somewhere around 3.5.

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