with all the trouble of where threads should go and arguing amongst each other......do I post this here or in AIBU???

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Went to Asda today with my ds in his wheelchair. Went to try on a top and pair of jeans. Waddled along to the changing rooms. The disabled one was taken so I continued down to the end changing room and proceeded to release my blubber and squeeze into the clothes, with the curtain open so I could watch my ds. I was easily visible. Anyway to cut a long story short, as I was passing the disabled, when I was finished, a very slim parent emerged with her very slim teenager. Do you think they should of give up the disabled space to me as I am clearly bigger, plus I had my ds in a wheelchair to watch, plus no one wants to be physically sick from seeing a fat person naked. Or am I discriminating between fat and thin??? Or AIBU??

P.S obv jff

All I can say is Asda is totally crap for changing rooms, doors locked, find a member of staff for key, not enough cubicles!
I certainly think your need outweighted the mum and teen, not because of largist issues but you had to keep an eye on DS, who clearly is disabled.
Probably would have to rank behind a disabled person actually trying on clothes though.

YABU! She might have needed the space for her big head!

hi5

you're braver than me - I wouldn't have felt comfortable changing with the cubicle open!

It's difficult, as you're not going to know if the person in there actually needs it or not until they're done and out of it. Were the changing rooms not monitored then? Ours locally generally have someone there keeping an eye on things. I suppose you could write a letter to them suggesting that they restrict the use of the disabled changing room to those who actually need it if possible. But it's a tricky issue, isn't it really?

However, who are you to know that slim teen was not ASD tearaway who needed constant watching and/or help to try on clothes (sorry, just stirring!!)

although I did have a giggle at sneezecakemum's comment about your need outweighing hers.

so did I triggles, however I am so outweighed lol
as for stirring Brioche, she was asking her mum did the clothes look good and oh I can't wait to go on my hols....she was so much politer and calmer than my 13yo dd (adhd and odd) who would of been dancing up and down while trying the clothes on lol

yabu. you need to strike a weighty blow for fat pride, and the right of the overweight everywhere to disrobe publicly without shame.

outweighed
a freudian petticoat I think!