anyones dc gone from ftime MS to split placement.

[anonandlikeit]

There is a possibility that ds2 may be going to split placement staying at his MS primary but going for a 1 or2 days to SN school.
its just something we are discussing at the moment BUT my main concern is how we explain to to ds2?

has anyone been through this with their dc. DS2 is 8 academically at reception stage with ASD & V MILD CP but he has a generally good level of understanding so would need to know what was happening.

Any tips please?

Sorry, my DS2 did mornings in reception and afternoons in SS for most of first year but as he started like that he knew no different. It did mean me having to transfer him every day.

How would it work with timetabling at the MS school? Most do numeracy and literacy in the ams and everything else in the pms. You wouldn't want him to always be playing catch up at school.

Fridays are sometimes different at MS, less structured. Might be a good day to miss at MS.

Timetable wouldn't really be an issue as he is already years behind & misses out on things like assembly etc to do extra of the basics.

The OT, psych & asd team have identified specific things they would liek to do with him but to have the multi disciplinary input he really needs to go to SS school.
For a year initially, it will also give them a chance to get to know him we all think long term (secondary school) he won't cope at MS so will need SS.

He is just getting to the stage where he is starting to object to appnt and becoming more aware of his 1 to 1 etc.
He also typically doesn't like change so really want to get this right!

That's a hard one. My DS is 11 and hasn't liked going out for his 1:1 individual work since he was 8. I suspect you'll just have to tell him an upbeat, simplified version of the truth, maybe glossing over the 'getting used to it' bit. Just what you feel he needs to know. Or do you think he's not ready for that 'your brain is wired differently' sort of chat yet?

Yep I guess you are right, honesty (to a degree) is the best policy. We have a meeting on Monday and will know after what the plan is. He has always used the outreach from one of the SS schools & goes there for Physio & orthotics appointments so it won't be completly new.

The plan is if they can give him some targeted therapy around his sensory issues it will lesson his anxiety. FIngers crossed!

It sounds like a good halfway house sort of solution. Great to get all that SS provision. But its always tricky when transitions are an issue. Yes, I generally think honesty is the best policy, giving them your age / ability appropriate version of the truth will protect them best from bullies and the like in the future. And keep your relationship built on trust for when they become stroppy teenagers!

anon
Hi we are thinkingof doing the same dd is in reception and head of her year
asked to speak to me after school the other day and out of the blue asked if we had thought of split placement.
I was shoked as had senco meeting two weeks ago and there was no mention of it.
I left school very upset .
I have a meeting on monday with senco again to see what we are going to do come September.
Oh by the way anon I think from a thread a long time ago you said you dont live to far from us. Im in suffolk
Hope your meeting goes well.

Thanks Happyday, fingers crossed both our meetings go well. Yes I'm in Suffolk (Suffolk coastal) what about you?

ANON Im not to far from Kessingland I dont know how to send a private message, but would be good to hear how you get on.

Hi Happy
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