DS loves boxing "hates" the trainer!

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DS is 11 and has APD, loads of other things and is generally about 9 years old really. Boxing is the first thing he has asked me if he can do rather than me saying "how about scouts" blah blah.

I take him twice a week and he loves it but he is going off it because of the bloke who runs it. Or should I say his attitude to the bloke who runs it.

The bloke is a London black man of about late 20s. He is very, very well meaning but I think he has a different style to my son is used to. He kind of cuffs him round the head jokily when DS getting it wrong.

DS's Dad doesn't live with us and I have said to DS - maybe the boxing guy is just a bloke, and maybe just a black bloke and has a different style to us.

I have watched the boxing bloke and I can see it is kind off "puppy-cuffing".

I don't mean this to sound at all racist, I only mention that he is black cos maybe there is a different "blokey" style. Dunno!

Hi my dd does Taekwondo and they get the same sort of thing with a tap on the head by a pad if they are doing it wrong. Maybe it's a blokey thing! Perhaps you could say something to the bloke that's ds loves coming but when this happens it makes him feel XYZ and as his dad isn't around he isn't used to the whole bloke messing about thing. I'm sure he will understand and may become a nice role model for ds in future years

I agree if this is DS's only issue with the trainer you could try having a quiet word with him, it sounds like he is a nice bloke so would hopefully take it on board. My DS wouldn't like that either but I think a lot of boys would enjoy that side of the rapport with a boxing coach.