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cheeryface · 31/03/2011 13:46

some of you may have remebered my previous posts on here but anyway

ended up at camhs with ds2 (11) after he started high school and it all went horribly wrong.
i went to my g.p who referred him after his behaviour went crazy and he was asking me to kill him etc.
at the time it seemed that it was all down to bullying and not being ready for high school.
the school suggested there was something wrong and that aspergers was a possibility. I took him out of the school as they were worse than useless.

we had an initial appointment with camhs in january where i explained what had been going on and about the aspergers suggestion.
ds2 told them he was fine now that he was going to be starting a new school Hmm

i explained that primary school had been no problem but his behaviour at home had been a little difficult and i was now beginning to wonder if there was something wrong or if it was purely bullying that had led to his behaviour.

camhs referred him to a psychologist , part of the asd team i think.
they did say the waiting list was long. in the mean time he has started a new school but it hasnt got any better.

hes having awful angry raging tantrums (usually when he isnt getting what he wants or hes in trouble for lying which hes doing all the time)

it can go on for hours and he goes from angry and aggressive to sobbing and hating himself.

he seems to have fallen out with most of his year gropup at school and befriended some year tens. i have just found out today that hes been giving money to a girl in yr 10 ( he seems to think that will make people like him) he did the same thing at the last school which ended in upset and trouble but obviouslt didnt learn from it.
actually he never learns , he repeats the same mistakes over and over e.g constantly takes his brothers and my stuff when i have said the rule is to always ask first. even after there has been a consequence to that he does it again.

On top of everything i have been having problems with dp and been on the verge of splitting up. Part of me thinks ds2 has learned his bad behaviour from dp and sometimes i am convinced that they both have aspergers or a personality dosorder or something.
my family has turned into a nightmare , everybody argues and cries and its a disaster.

anyway , i have just recieved a letter from camhs saying that his appoinment will be 9-12 months ! theres a form there and it asks what is the main problem you want help with ?
i just dont know what to say !

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cheeryface · 31/03/2011 14:16

sorry very long and lots of typos Blush

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cheeryface · 31/03/2011 14:52

anyone ?

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davidsotherhalf · 01/04/2011 08:11

i would make a list of the behaviours you are trying to change and number them in order i put anger at the top of my list and everything else followed.

Chundle · 01/04/2011 12:31

Crikey what a nightmare for you! Is there anyway you can get your GP to refer you to an out of area CAMHS as they may have a shorter list? Or is going private an option? Waiting lists are dreadful:( totally different but I was facing a 9 month for physio for dd2 I saw a private physio for one consultation and she contacted NHS physio and got dd seen in 2 months! Put the worst behaviour at the top so perhaps the saying he wanted you to kill him, then the anger. The order you put them in will have an effect on how quick you are seen as well xx

cheeryface · 02/04/2011 23:57

thanx

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Al1son · 03/04/2011 00:07

If things escalate go back to your GP and ask him/her to inform CAMHS. When you do get your first appt be aware that it may be a triage-type appt to identify which type of clinician your DS should see. Your DS could then be put on a new waiting list. It may not be the case but that's how it works in our county.

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