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rigidity driving me insane!!!

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Chundle · 30/03/2011 19:45

hi all looking for some advice. DD2 almost 20 months is getting more and more rigid as the weeks go by. She has no firm dx we are just told by CDC 'its all sensory'. Anyway, she cannot stand fluff on the carpet so will screech at fluff on the carpet and will not climb the stairs f their is fluff on them and will scream and point until i remove the offending items! Obviously I could hoover more however she is petrified of the hoover as well!!!! The main issue we are having at present is her DVD obsession, she has to watch either Peppa Pig or her nursery rhyme dvd. If its peppa pig she will snort like a pig and point to the box to get us to put it on and if we say no its full scale screaming fit and head banging. If its nursery rhymes this is even more tricky as she wont watch the whole dvd and will only watch the Baa Baa black sheep song and will scream and tantrum if we dare to let it role onto Hickory Dickory Dock.

Shes also obsessed with her clothes, i dared to try and put a new coat on her the other day, which happened to look exactly like her old coat, same colour and style just a different material. She looked at it in disgust and wouldnt put her arm in. So i put it on her and she spent ages fussing and flapping her arms about then she noticed the sleeves were slightly long and started screaming and pushing them up her arm! Evidently only too small clothes will do!

I think having no clear diagnosis does not really help matters as not sure where to go for help.She is driving me insane, what on earth will she be like at 2years old??? Please dont tell me even worse :(

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Chundle · 30/03/2011 21:08

Sorry forgot to add that dd1 is increasingly pissed off that she is getting less tv time than her little sister! Helpppp

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EllenJane1 · 30/03/2011 21:12

You've got possible SN plus the start of terrible twos which I swear started earlier to each of my 3 DSs in turn. (And went on much longer for DS2) It doesn't sound much fun, but you've got to put a positive spin on it. It's a milestone reached. She is doing what all egocentric toddlers do, pushing the boundaries and getting a great reaction! Trouble is, normal parenting ceases to apply. Ignoring tantrums worked a treat on my 2 NT (ish) DSs but DS2 still has a few age 11! I went through the motions, and ignored the bad and praised the good, but he didn't care about the praise. He needed an instant physical reward, like a biscuit. ( Or a small crumb of biscuit)

Have a look at ABA, applied behavioural analysis methods. Others on here rave about them. I only heard of ABA too late for my DS, but looking back, I was doing my own (less consistent) version of it. It did make things better, eventually!

Chundle · 30/03/2011 21:37

Thanks I'll have a look at that. I've true ignoring but I'm worried the neighbour will ring police as she will scream and. Crash about for literally hours! Feeding her works but because she tantrums so regularly throughout the day I worry that I will be feeding her continuously! Lol I'll have a look at this aba thingy tomorrow thank you.
My dd1 has ADHD and she was a breeze compared to this!

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EllenJane1 · 30/03/2011 22:07

Goddamn semi detached/terraced houses!

EllenJane1 · 30/03/2011 23:10

Check out some of StarlightMcKenzie's recent posts on ABA. She's very knowledgeable.

EllenJane1 · 30/03/2011 23:11

Eg. Struggling with wait for ASD diagnosis. I'd link you but my phone doesn't do them!

EllenJane1 · 30/03/2011 23:14

And, Best area to live in terms of autism support.

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Chundle · 31/03/2011 07:01

That's fab thanks for all your advice guys much appreciated

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