Long sorry - but I am sure a mumsnetter will read this and understand our situation.
DS1 (5y 10m) has already been assessed for autsim (when 4) but doesn't tick the right boxes.
Last night I stumbled on some information about auditory processing disorder and it made a lot of sense.
Many of the problems we have with Ds1 centre around communication, instructions and understanding.
For example on the way home in car today dh asked kids 'what so you want for lunch, pancakes, tuna sandwich, or something else' - ds2 (4) very quick to shout 'pancakes'. Ds1's response it 'what'. And that is the response we get to pretty much every question. 'What shoes', even though they are right in front of him. 'Shreddies or cornflakes?' - ds will respond 'what cornflakes', or even 'I not understand'.
If I want to get him to make a choice, I hold up the options and he points to it. If I need him to put on his shoes, coat etc I just hand him the item wordlessly and he does it.
It is only once you introduce words that life gets confusing for him.
But I am sure its not hearing because he and his dad are right now having a great conversation over the top of the noisy Star Wars theme music.
So in summary - talks fine, can hold a conversation, make himself understood, hear me when he can't be lip reading - but making choices, or following instructions are really a total non-starter.
At parent's evening teacher pointed out he was relauctant to follow instruction but if someone sat with him and showed him what to do he was capable. As a result he is starting to fall behind.
Sound familiar?
Should probably also mention that he has an extremely heightened sense of smell so hopefully has a great career ahead of him as wine / chocolate taster :)