Sad and angry r.e attitutes

[PigeonMalteserMadness]

I overheard a lady earlier talking loudly on her mobile phone:

"He's got ADHD and that's that. There's no point me going to all these meetings. I get me Carers and DLA money and I'm on call to bring him home from school whenever they want. I can't be arsed talking to all these people, they can't change him"

My DS is almost four and autistic. I've given up my career and any hope of another child. I spend hours researching ways to best help him and to maximise his chances in life. I welcome input from professionals.

I felt so for her son and also really annoyed because you hear about these people and I know that they are very much in the minority but it is so not helpful to those of us who are trying so desperately hard.

Especially when you get "those" AIBU threads

Sorry, bad week and ranting

She might just have come out of one too many meetings of the "patronise the Mum and spout a loud of pathetic meaningless jargon at her" variety too many.

Certainly anyone who had overheard my rants to my bestie or Mum over the last couple of years re my local Cahms service would have thought similar. It took me 2 years to get my son in front of a proper shrink instead of a clueless support worker. I danced when I got the shrink's report that says he does have consistent discipline at home and that his problems are caused by a genuine disorder. Doesn't mean I won't have to run the gauntlet of the clueless (re my son's disorder) support worker again in the future.

I know I'm enjoying a temporary reprieve only, from these ijeets. There are so many unqualified people around to give an opinion and force you to suffer it re a hidden disability like adhd. She may have been at the end of her tether and really missing her old career that day.

Please don't judge on an off the cuff remark meant to be part of a confidential conversation. With the government and media attacking the disabled, the last things us Mums should be doing is judging each other.

Yes I see your point and is why I was posting here because for once I felt judgy which is unusual and alien to me.

I'm expecting our draft statement soon and may well be ranting that I'm never going to any meeting with any so-called professional again. Probably not in a public place but you never know - I might curse the Ed Psych, SALT and LA up and down the High Street to DH for all to hear and not give a flying!

Doubt I'd be saying that it doesn't matter as long as I'm getting money. That wouldn't even occur to me to be honest, unless perhaps I was worried that the meetings may well improve things and the entitlement to DLA might end.

Ah sorry bochead not to have addressed your situation.

How awful for you and and for your DS to have them saying that and refusing him prompt help. I was so lucky in that respect with my son, dx on our first appointment with Paed before he was even three.

They try the bad parenting / crap-discipline thing on me EVEN NOW about his non-sleeping and eating even though they know it's part of his condition. It sucks.

You are right

im awaiting my final one for DS too ill be here ranting im sure about their lack of understanding but as my DH keeps telling me be positive as i am THE most negative person ever esp after all we are put through so much so as DS (asd) never usually shows his feelings but i was upset the other day he over heard me saying to someone im a useless mum and he came in kitchen put his hands round my face and said no your not your the best mum in the world

Oh MADABOUT sorry you need to rant too but how lovely! That's the sort of thing we need more of on this board