What do I ask at our School Doctor appointment?

[Carrotsandcelery]

We have finally received a letter telling us when our appointment is to meet with the school doctor. We have been referred because ds is having trouble at school. Having researched online it looks like he may have some sort of ADHD or similar. We have begun giving him omega 3 supplements and a more supportive structure at school and are already seeing improved behaviour and performance. That said, he obviously still has problems.
I was expecting a questionaire or similar to come with the appointment but all we have been given is a slip to return to confirm that we can attend the appointment.
What should I do to prepare for the appointment? What will the doctor need? Should I contact the school and ask if they have been contacted? If they haven't should I ask them what issues they would like raised at the meeting? Do I take a list of all the "behaviours" that cause us concern? Do I just go empty handed and let them guide the consultation?
Please help - this is not how I expected things to progress!

I would note down a few examples of situations that have caused concern at home and at school, and make a list of any questions that you have. It is worth going with an idea of what you would like to acheive realistically at the end of the appointment eg being referred onto specialists for full assessments and a diagnosis to be made. You might want to know what the doctor thinks may be the reasons for the issues he has though don't necessarily expect a doctor to commit on that from one meeting like this.

The doctor will most likely guide you and presumably has an idea why you are going in the first place so will be prepared. Expect a lot of questions! It is worth trying to think out before hand all the milestones as a baby and when he did the important ones like walking/talking etc. as you are likely to be asked about these.

Thanks beautiful I would never have thought of the milestones at all!
So, to recap:
A list of examples of behaviour that has caused concern.
A list of questions about why he behaves this way.
A clear idea of what we want to happen next.

Should I expect to have to be pushy about it or is it usually normal practice for a refferal to be the next step? [totally ignorant]