Sad that DS hasn't got anyone to play with at break

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Yet again DS (aged 5) has come home saying that no-one would play with him at playtime . He is a young year 1 in a mixed Year 1/2 class and the only people who sometimes play with him are in Reception or Year 2, ie none of the year 1s.

And the questionnaire for the Paed that I glimpsed at as I signed the permission section said "Gets on better with adults than children".

I am rubbish socially. I have hardly any friends and the ones I do, I don't make any effort to call or see.

I feel bad for him that he is also bad socially.

He is being assessed for gross and fine motor, concentration and behaviour as well as sensory but this seems something else to me.....

Have you mentioned this to his teacher?

Maybe he needs to be buddied up, or maybe have someone help him to play with other children his own age?

Thanks 5inthebed.

I am struggling at the moment to get her to acknowledge that a lot of the difficulties he has could be due to his sensory difficulties and poor proprioception. As he is the top reader in this mixed class, I think her expectations are slightly skewed....

I have now gone to the extent of getting a private OT assessment which IMO will be definitive. Seeing as the writing slope which the NHS OT recommended or the movement breaks ie jobs like taking the register to the office haven't materialised, I can see this request not going any further either. Once I have got the OT and behavioural optometrist reports, I plan to hit them with both barrels.

We have parents evening next week where I will be nicey nicey pending the assessments at the end of March

Sorry, that was a really long outpouring!

Sounds very annoying. You should point out that just because he does well in one area, it doesn't mean he will be the same for all.....like most children!

Oh the joy of parents evening. I hate DS2s teacher, she praises him like he is a dog

Sorry the school doesn't seem supportive. Do they have a friendship stop? Would they be open to a 'circle of friends' type of thing? Is your DS unhappy that he had no-one to play with? Sometimes children are quite happy doing their own thing? Is there anyone your DS likes that you could encourage with a play date? I've given up a bit with my DS as the other boys are all football types, but he's one of those who I'd happy in his own world.

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Nope, no friendship stop. They have "carers" at lunchtime who are the year 6s who help the little ones with their lunch.

He said that he wasn't unhappy just bored but he does want me to speak to the teacher. It is the football thing I think. He can't play it - ball skills aren't his thing!

Most of the year 1s in his class went to the same preschool so have stuck as friends.

Have been looking on NAS at Aspergers.

Not sure that we have the special interests trait though. He does go in phases of only playing with a couple of toys ie now we are on Bakugan but it is not obsessive IYSWIM

Football has a lot to answer for! All you need is one child who doesn't like it much either and you've got a ready made friend. Mixed age classes are hard if it reduces the potential like minded boys. But it's not a problem if he's friends with a younger child , especially if he's a young Y1?

Ask them to put in a friendship stop or bench or something. If a child is lonely they go to the friendship stop and nice children are encouraged to go and include them.

I will do EllenJane thank you. I have seen mention of them before and they seem great.

I overlook the school playground as the school is at the end of our road and it breaks my heart to see him wandering around by himself.