I done something terrible on Tuesday!!!

[devientenigma]

My dd had an appointment at 10.30, with my ds not in school we had decided for me to go for my mam, so she could take dd and me and ds would stay in the car and watch the cars, something he craves.
Anyway I couldn't get him to leave the house, it obviously wasn't on his agenda, so I took dd in the car and locked up, leaving him in the house.
She felt really guilty and yes I was at the end of my tether, sick of phoning around saying I am not a statistic, I just have a ds I can't control. So she went back in.
Although I felt guilty about what I was doing and really didn't want to, I'm just fed up of him being in control and I thought drastic times, drastic measures.

I wish I could think of a really clever solution to give you. You sound so desperate and like you're getting no support.

I don't know how old your DS is and wouldn't want to pass comment on your judgement anyway. Did you manage to get to the appointment in the end or at least re-schedule it?

I find that juggling children and appointments is a much bigger source of stress than it ever should be, probably because of the attitude of staff if you miss one or are late.

did you leave him there then?
Could your mam not have taken dd to appointment and you stay home with ds.
Its hard work darling we all know and tbh we have all done things "wrong" in the past.
His fine and todays a new day

I don't remember how old your ds is or what his SN is, but he obviously was OK with being left alone by himself - so why feel guilty about it?

The UK at the moment is so overprotective, and we're encouraged to never leave our kids alone. But this is all recent. When we were kids we were frequently left alone.....

(And actually there is no legal age in the UK that your child is deemed 'old enough' to be left alone. It is totally up to your judgement...)

(Apologies if your DSs SN means this is stupid advice)

Yep, I don't know how old your son is either. Ours is 4yo, so if he doesn't want to go somewhere we absolutely need to go, we can pick him up and carry him (although God knows that's the noisy option! ). Not the easiest thing to do when your child is, say, a hulking 14 or 15yo.

I think his 11 ish and having seen op son in rl I dont think she could physically move him, his nearly as tall as me! Hope your ok xx

Devient - we've all been there. I think that just generally as a parent we often have an over developed guilt gland.
I defy anyone on these pages to post now that they haven't done something over the years that they have felt guilty about - but felt at the time that they had no option.

my ds is like that and hes a big almost 12 year old as big as me, i cant force him to go to his room to calm down or even separate him from his sibling when i need to now , very difficult and frustrating situation but ive been lucky ive found a friend of mine hes seems to like and hes happy for her to look after him it used to only be his nanny, now i take lots of his favorite things with me and the promise of a chocolate too usually does it not ideal using bribery but last time he did it it was my dds dental appointment and id be fined £25 quid if we missed it again