My ds started his new school on Monday. This 1st week has been a completly different experience to the old school. He's happy for a start. He's had 1 major meltdown when getting home from school but unlike the old school the teacher had written in his home/school book (yes, we even have one of those now 
) that she had realised he had a problem in the afternoon but couldn't work out what it was. That sentence made all the difference for me dealing with the meltdown at home. I knew that it was school related and gave me the chance to help him open up. I had him calm in 40mins not 2hours like had been happening. The problem was then writen in the book and was dealt with the next day by the school . I can't begin to explain how relieved I am about this. The teacher already "gets" my child. What a difference. She might not know him yet but she already could pick up on the subtle signs that indicate all is not well with ds. She's seen the importance of communication and is doing it.
He doesn't appear to be missing his twin sister and she doesn't appear to be missing him. In fact at parents evening yesterday they said she's a different child now and seems more relaxed and starting to settle into a group of girls.
Thank you all so much for helping us make what was such a hard decision to move him 
. I think I'll be raising a 
tonight to you.
Oh and I've gone back to my old username, I much prefer it and the rl person can say and think what they like now we've moved schools.