This could be a long one..............
My ds1 is 7. He is a kind, sweet boy, an orange belt at karate, is learning to swim and is a member of the local Beaver pack. He enjoys watching his dvds (mostly top gear and david attenborough ones) and riding his bike. He is a great brother to my ds2 (aged 2.5)
He had undaignosed IUGR as a baby (was 4lbs 15oz at birth but received no special care) and therefore had significant developmental delay...didnt sit up unaided til he was 9 months, didnt talk til he was 2.5, was very floppy baby, poor feeder etc etc
He had prolonged jaundice too and - eventually! -the HV listened to me and sent him to the GP...cue rush to hospital and a week on IV ABs.
They thought he had CP (we were told one week that he could be deaf and blind) but after the IV ABs he started to feed and slowly gained weight and strength. He never met his milestones but did it all eventually.
I think that, because he didnt have CP or a similar major disability, I have just tried to put his early issues to the back of my mind and I have never made a big deal of it. I have not wanted to relive those terrible first months I suppose.
However, it is becoming clear to me that I have failed my son badly. I can blame the GPs, HVs, hospitals and schools as much as I like but the buck stops with me.
Ds1 went to pre school at 3.3. He wasnt ready. I knew that but I was under a lot of familial pressure to send him;
"he will come on leaps and bounds"
"he needs the social interaction"
etc etc
Anyway, after taking some time to settle he did start to enjoy pre school. Reception which he started at 4.5 was ok too, albeit he got very tired.
Year 1 was a DISASTER. Within 4 weeks he came home and told me he had a "stupid brain". He got increasingly unhappy. At the parents evening his teacher said he was "struggling" but when I asked what I could do to help was met with a blank stare....he was assessed by the SENCO at my request and she said he was a summer baby and would "catch up". She referred him for SALT which was a surprise as his vocab is amazing 
and when the SALT came it was a bit embarrasing as there wasnt really anything to do!
After ds1 started showing signs of clinical depression at xmas 2009 I took him out of school and home schooled him for most of last year.
He went back to a small village primary last november and he has settled in well and enjoys it...it is much more child led/less concerned with SATS..
It was parents evening yesterday. ds1 is well behaved and happy BUT is still struggling.....he cannot read or write very well (ORT stage 4) and there are some behaviours which, whilst I am used to them, I am realising they are probably cause for concern...
He "prances" (well thats what we call it!) and walks on tip toe a lot at home...more so when excited. He also has quite jerky arm movements at times too. He can get very anxious.
As I type this he is watching one of his Top Gear dvds and "prancing" up and down the room on his tip toes....he cannot seem to sit still.
He sees a paed twice a year due to his asthma and excema and I have mentioned these things to him but he dismissed my concerns.
Because he is a "good boy" (forgive the term) at school I think they dont think he has a problem. He also doesnt do tip toe walking at school AFAIK.
I have had some great advice from indigo and I am going to go to the GP and get him a child development paed referral. I am also going to look into some other therapies.
What else can I do???
Thanks if youve got this far!! x