DD about to start MS Nursery & I feel so nervous / sad...

[proudmum74]

Hi - after an amazing year with my dd, who has DS, I have to go back to work part time next week. After months of searching we've found a really good nursery for her to attend which although it is MS does have experience with SN & DS children.

The nursery have been fantastic offering over 8 weeks of settling in sessions (2 afternoons a week) for free, they've made sure that every member of staff in all age group rooms know dd name & greet her as we arrive. DD seems to absolutely love it as they have cool sensory toys & lots of new friends for her to play with. All her therapists & our family seem to think it's a great idea as she is an only child and really loves other children, plus she learns so much from other children.

The problem is with me, I'm heartbroken I have to leave her and go back to work, even though it is only part time. I've been close to tears most mornings this week at the thought of having to leave her as we've been inseparable for the past year. I guess what I want to know is am I doing the right thing and Have any of you put you dd in MS nursery and did it work out OK?

Thanks!

Your a mum your allowed to have feelings about leaving your dd can i say your a great mum because your doing the best for your dd. don't look at it as you have to go back to work just look at it in another way your making your daughters life better she will learn lots of new things and have lots of friends,this will prepare her for school.smile and be proud of yourself and your dd your a great mum

I hated having to take dd to nursery but it was the best thing i did for her, she went to MS nursery 3 times a week and sn nursery 2 times a week. Dd2 has ASD and her main problems where with communication and socialising, MS made a huge difference and i could see improvement in her each day, she also enjoyed going and it gave me a break .

Hi Proudmum

Just here to hold hands. I am in exactly the same place as you. My DS with lots of medical needs starts MS nursery next week. Not sure if it's the best or the worst decision I've ever made!

The nursery you've described sounds fantastic and your daughter enjoying it already should give you some comfort. Everybody has told me that DS and I will both benefit, so prepared to give it a go even though like you I'm shedding lots of tears.

The way I see it is that if I go back to work and really can't deal with being away from DS after a few weeks (he was in hospital for 4 months when he was born so feel somehow we're going back to that!?) or if DS really doesn't like nursery, I'll quit my job. If that's an option for you, see this as a trial. I'm sure things will work out and your DD will make you prouder still as she progresses at nursery and brings you home her art work and fairy cakes!

Hard but worthwhile. Mine went to mainstream nursery with support and it was lovely. He learnt so much and was well liked by staff and volunteers.

Thanks everyone & good luck too Herecomestheninkynonk!!

ds started ms nursery when he was 2.5 & like a baby really. It was a huge deal for me :( but of everything we've done it has turned out to give me fewest concerns. The staff love him & I honestly don't worry at all when he's there. He's developing nicely - not in leaps like with the ABA but his social/group play skills are following a normal (but delayed - this last couple of weeks he's started talking non specifically about his friends, so at 4.3 he's about a year behind socially I guess) developmental sequence & I'm v. pleased about that :)