I'm seriously on the verge of a breakdown...........

[devientenigma]

who can help me???

Not sure..GP? SS? Have a hug anyway!

what do you need help with?

:(

Seeing the GP (urgently) is a good idea.

Do you have any family who can help? Even temporarily? Do you have a DH/DP? Is he any support?

Could the Samaritans help?

Treat yourself. Indulge in everything that makes you sain. You desserve it. It is even a safety procedure.

This is in-flight safety, remember, when oxigen masks fall, you are supposed to put your mask first before putting the mask on the children. (you are with me?). You need to be safe first, otherwise nobody can be helped.

Indulge.

see your gp? Sending you hugs

Hi deep breaths and take things a minute at a time.

What is the most distressing thing right now?

Keep talking to us.

Oh devient,

1. Talk to us about it - see if there's anything we can do to help - even if its just listen.

1. Allow yourself to stop and take stock and have some space for yourself.

1. Write yourself a list of all the things that are overwhelming you. (Make sure you include the little things, as they can tend to build up, but very often they're the easiest to fix and you'll feel better if you manage to achieve a couple of them.)

1. Split the list into:

a) those that can be helped/fixed and how and whose help you might need to do it
b) those that are beyond your control and you need to find a way of letting go of

1. Ask for and accept help, from anyone who will be able to give you some respite (friends, family etc)

1. Call your GP and book an emergency appointment to sort out some crisis control, then ..

Book an additional double appointment with your GP, take your lists along and talk it all through properly with them. Also talk through all the options for treatment/support, including possible beta blockers for anxiety, anti-depressants if appropriate and referral for specialist help. Ask for a referral to the healthy minds team, who can offer you counselling, cbt or even online support in some areas.

1. Lastly, understand that by asking the question, you are already starting to take control of the situation. You are strong and you WILL get through it. One foot in front of the other - you WILL get there.

We are here if you need to vent/rant/talk/discuss options etc.

Hopefully by now Devient you are getting help from somewhere, whether it be DP, GP or SS. Sometimes even a rant on the phone to a friend/relative helps, especially when you shed a few tears. Hope your dc is at school/nursery to give you little time to yourself. Big Hugs

Devient - keep venting and talking. Empathy from MN and RL parents in similar and worse situations keeps my sanity at a working level. The problem shared is a problem halved saying has a lot of truth in it. Sometimes just pouring out your feelings - written or verbal - can put the problem in perspective in your own head. Moosemama is right. Some problems can be resolved with time to think about how to cope/deal/resolve it. Some will never disappear and it's a case of learning to live alongside them. Time to do this is probably the one thing that we all could do with more of, to sit quietly and plan what to do, rather than spend the whole day fire fighting with no end in sight.
If i could, Devient, i would send you an extra couple of hours a day. Hours where everything else stands still and you can just walk around through it with a clear mind - getting jobs done, paperwork sorted and a nice relaxing bath.
Hope you have managed to find someone to help, been to GP etc.

Devient, hope you day is going better now. It's ups and downs with a child with SN (I say having been through a terrible down and now going back up again).

You really need some time out for you.

Can you post any more about how things are going. I'd hate you to be feeling low on your own.

GP (referral, CPN support if necessary), Lifeline (24 hr), Samaritans (24 hr, sometimes have drop-in), BACP website for private counselling, friends, family, mn.

What do you need Devient?

Sent you a pm devientenigma.

hope you're okay

thanks guys,
it was just the aftermath of another unproductive meeting!!
I will get over it in time. I do feel I could do with a break, just it's impossible lately, even for 5 mins peace.
Had a ponding headache with a mixture of things the profs just are not getting, as well as things I should of said etc, hubby wasn't helpful in what he was saying.....it was just dragging me down further.
The extra hours would be great!!!
Also a long HOT relaxing soak....that's not to say I don't shower lol.
As for school, ds has been a SAHC for nearly a year, with no immediate plans to intergrate him back in. As for the anti D's, shall I just take ds prozac?? He also doesn't sleep well and that's when you get him to go to bed.
Anyway I will do the list exercise for now, which will hopefully get me back on track. I also need to clear my head a bit more, then email all that I wanted to say and didn't get the opportunity.
Take care all x

Don't take DS Prozac, it might not be the right drug/dose for you. I find a stiff drink can blur the edges enough to calm down in an emergency.

Remeber we're all rooting for you

hugs, book in to your gp. As purple said DS prozac may not be good for you. Vent here, in a diary and to your friends. I hope your feeling better soon and get somewhere with profs.

I wanted to second the advice to Try your GP.

After 13 years of coping as a single parent with 2 kids, one ASD etc, and a SERIOUSLY unsupportive ex, crap family support, useless professional support ETC ETC.. I had a breakdown last year and went on AD's, and it really was the best thing I culd have done. Life now is just the same, eg no easier!, but the AD's seem to have given me a bit more of a 'forcefield' to protect myself from folding in a heap at the bottom of a bottle of vodka.

Really hope you're OK, you've had good advice here from everyone, hope it helps you

Hope things seem better soon. x

I hate that feeling after a meeting when you think of things that you wish you'd said!
Glad to hear that you're okay