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Anyone waiting their secondary school offer?

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EllenJane1 · 28/02/2011 13:31

In Gloucestershire ours came out a day early due to the LA saving money on second class, so they had to post early to guarantee delivery tomorrow. DS2 had got his place but as it was on his statement no great surpise. Still lovely to have it in black and white. Good luck everyone affected!

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cory · 01/03/2011 08:08

Yes, expecting ours today. And we're also taking ds to CAHMS today to talk about low self esteem and possible depression. And the forum is full of threads assuring us that it doesn't matter what school your child gets because "children can thrive and be happy anywhere". Heigh-ho, happy days

starterfor10 · 01/03/2011 10:18

Maybe children without additional needs can thrive and be happy anywhere, but I don't think anyone on this board would be so blase. Unfortunately for DCs like ours the school makes all the difference. Good luck Cory.

NAR4 · 01/03/2011 11:05

Feel sick with nerves. Just don't want 3rd child (who we are waiting for the results for) to be the only one who doesn't get into the grammar school. I know he is capable but it so depends on how he is that day and he wasn't great. Suspect I will be disappointed and am worried it will cause low self esteem for him.

bettyboop63 · 01/03/2011 11:09

oh god how ridiculous if they can thrive anywhere why do we bother sending them at all the way my ds has been treated good luck everyone

bigcar · 01/03/2011 11:19

we're waiting to hear for ds1, shouldn't be a problem as we applied for one of the poorest performing schools that took everyone that applied last year (the only school within miles that did that) as it has the best pastoral care. It's also a sports college which will be good for him. I told him he could go to the girls school with dd2 as he'd get in on the sibling rule, he wasn't impressed

good luck everyone

Ineedalife · 01/03/2011 13:59

Don't envy any of you, I am not waiting for a place but have done it twice and know how stressful it is, hope everyone gets what they want.

joencaitlinsmum · 01/03/2011 14:34

Yep didnt get offered our 1st or 2nd choice so got to go down the appeal route.

We dont have a statement yet just started the dx route and cahms later this week.

I dispair poor DS cried for an hour this morning as for me I was running around with smoke coming out of my ears trying to look calm for DS benefit lol.

bigcar · 01/03/2011 14:36

sorry to hear that

magso · 01/03/2011 14:39

I know in theory (the one we thought best) but await the 'black and white' proof!

HelensMelons · 01/03/2011 15:01

Sorry to hear that as well.

We don't find out until end of May for ds1 x

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EllenJane1 · 01/03/2011 15:58

Good luck everyone still waiting. I've found out today that Ds2 will have a boy and 2 girls going with him from his primary so that's a relief. Not exactly friends but he doesn't exactly have friends IYSWIM.

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bettyboop63 · 01/03/2011 18:14

sorry to hear that joencaitlinsmum ironic that my son is now in SS and 6 months ago i was worried sick my DS wouldnt be offered a place at his siblings school as its so over subscribed its the best school in the area and they have changed the catchment area so we are not in it any longer but had the e-mail earlier telling me he got in

DameEdnaBeverage · 01/03/2011 18:30

Arranged sm a couple of months ago and we don't get sent confirmation - just told that as we named the school that's what we've got!
Big relief though as couldn't send ds to local school as all the bullies go there. Would have had to give up job and home ed rather than send him there. New school is on other side of town but has great pastoral care and a lovely Senco so hoping he will do well there.

bigcar · 01/03/2011 20:52

great news betty and dame

ellenjane, that sounds good!

helens and magso, hope you haven't got too long to wait for your letters.

Well, ds1 got his place [yay] such a relief to see it written down. He falls right on the border line for a statement and we've been turned down 3 times so I'm hoping this is the right school that will put the effort in so we don't have to try again. Wonder how long I should leave it before I call the senco

just have to wait for panel to make their decision on dd3s ss place for september now

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EllenJane1 · 01/03/2011 22:50

Great news bigcar! Good luck for the panel decision.

My NT(ish) DS3 will be going through it all in 2 years. Shame the school DS1 goes to and now DS2 will go to has no siblings rule!

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cory · 02/03/2011 08:05

sorry to hear that joencaitlin, best of luck for the appeal (we appealed for dd and were successful, so it can be done)

congrats bigcar and dame

We are still waiting as ds' letter was given out yesterday afternoon at his school and we were at his hospital appointment

bigcar · 02/03/2011 09:10

oh no cory, will you be able to collect it this morning?

ellenjane, what a pain, all bar the grammar schools still have the sibling rule here. Although every year there are rumours it's going!

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EllenJane1 · 02/03/2011 13:57

They do a 'fair banding test' at this one, even DS2, to keep it 'comprehensive' then it's on location and we happen to be a fair distence away. It was DS1's 3rd choice school, and we had it on DS2's statement, mainly because DS1 is there (and a nice SEN dept, of course).

Poor old DS3 is likely to go to the only poor comp in our area. We could have put the 'posh, academic' comp with a sibling rule on the statement to get DS3 in, but that would have been choosing the school for DS3's benefit, when it wasn't the best choice for DS2. Basically posh comp didn't want any kids with SEN and made it bloody obvious in a snidey way. Shame cos most of DS3's friends will go there and none to fair banding comp or poor comp.

Now in position of having to settle for poor comp or make DS3 do 11+ for next door town grammars, or appeal for Fair banding comp or posh comp.

It's all such a pain. Would have been much easier if posh comp had some human decency and behaved well for the local children with SEN instead of worrying about it's (very high) league position.. Makes me think of that saying, 'You can judge a society on how it treats its most vulnerable citizens.' ie shite!

Sorry, rant over. Was very tempted to put posh comp on statement just to show them, and get DS3 a place, but realised not in best interest of DS2. Shame.

Anyway, hope cory gets good news soon. Let us know.

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cory · 04/03/2011 07:47

It's CELEBRATIONS!!!!!

I will not be spending the next month writing an appeal- because HE GOT IN!!!!

Took a Chinese takeaway to console him for the thought that he's not going to the catchment school (which we didn't even apply to)- but he will get to like it, I know he will. They've been absolutely wonderful with dd, even the receptionists know and understand about her condition, he can't go to a better place.

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EllenJane1 · 04/03/2011 08:17

Really pleased for you Cory. So much easier if they are at the same school.

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cory · 04/03/2011 09:06

Thanks Ellen!

It's not just them being at the same school, the other local schools have no wheelchair access, so if he needs to use a wheelchair he wouldn't be able to get to the classroom. That happened to dd in junior school: she had to crawl up the stairs on her hands and knees to get to her maths lessons. When she said she couldn't do it they just left her on her own in a classroom with worksheets. Imagine that in secondary school, and with a boy, who is already totally fed up with school!

bigcar · 04/03/2011 12:19

great news cory

HelensMelons · 04/03/2011 14:13

good news, bigcar, dame and cory. What a relief!

DameEdnaBeverage · 04/03/2011 15:55

Cory have been looking out to hear what choice you had. That's great news - hope ds is happy there. It makes all our lives so much better if dc's enjoy school.

cory · 04/03/2011 19:44

thanks, DameEdna< Helons and bigcar

I'm on the wine now

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