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embarassing moments

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davidsotherhalf · 28/02/2011 08:33

i got fed up of my ds coming home from playing with friends with silly stories that his friends would tell. my ds would believe anything they told him.I kept repeating to him over and over don't believe what they tell you unless you find out the truth yourself. The other night he came home and said i did what you said mum but the woman wasn't very happy she shut the door in my face. I asked what did you do? he replied my friends kept telling me that the house up the road was a madhouse, so i knocked on the door and asked.

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davidsotherhalf · 28/02/2011 08:58

forgot to ask your opinion should i go and say sorry and explain he has sen and say sorry or should i just hide?

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Al1son · 28/02/2011 09:21

I think I would go and explain what happened to her and let her know it was silly boys winding him up. Unless you know the family is very aggressive or you have had unpleasant experiences with them in the past that is.

You don't want a neighbour bearing a grudge.

SpiderObsession · 28/02/2011 10:38

Agree with Alison. Won't take two minutes to explain to the neighbours and they'll be more understanding if it happens again.

Chundle · 28/02/2011 11:01

i have had similar things happen with my eldest dd whos 6 and has adhd she always does slightly off the scale things! i too would go and apologise perhaps take your lad with you!

intothewest · 28/02/2011 11:01

Sorry,but it is quite funny ! If a child had said this to me I would be understanding.Is it a close neighbour-someone you need to see a lot ?-Do what you feel is best-
It is so difficult to explain some things,isn't it !

Kids do tell each other silly things-When my dd (nt) was little,she came running back crying,saying her 'friend' had told her 'there's a real bear coming'She was very upset and has never forgotten it

lisad123isasnuttyasaboxoffrogs · 28/02/2011 11:06

our friends called spagetti worms at dinner the other day, DD2 was in tears and refused to end them :(

bettyboop63 · 28/02/2011 13:50

my Ds went out the front to play with a his brother and sister and some neighbours children later he cae home without the scooter i went to get it and it was broken (where they solder it) in two i asked how this happened and my ds said one of the boys said it would be fun to smash it up so Ds let him have it, hes so easily led a couple other things happened and now feel i cant even let him out the front of the house now (We live in a cul-de-sac so no traffic) even with his older bro n sis as last summer teens were throwing stones at him and we live in a very nice area but because people can tell hes "different" horrible word they pick on him

intothewest · 28/02/2011 14:22

That is really horrible, Betty- your poor ds.

I can't let my ds out at all on his own-we too live in a cul de sac and all the other children play outside-they are nice children,but ds just wouldn't be safe-It is isolating and would love him to be able to play out,but he will never be able to.

starfishmummy · 28/02/2011 15:06

I know how you feel into the west - DH can never go out to play by himself, or to the shops or any of the things I did when I was 12 (or even younger). He waould also be the sort of child like bettyboops - who would let others take and break his stuff. Yet he thinks I am mean as I don't let him take thingslike his ds or mp3 player into school

bettyboop63 · 28/02/2011 16:06

well out the front i used to feel was ok as his brother and sister would watch him and play with a sponge football with him and i can see from the living room window, but now they are teens and just dont want too plus hes more of a handfull now hes older and still doesnt have road sense or stranger danger or even recognise dangers like jumping off things so wouldnt be fair to ask them too its darn hard work for an adult so now no he will never be able to again sadly i feel like his jailer, my back gardens too muddy hes been asking for weeks to go out and play football but its clay and water logged roll on summer we go to a wavepool where he can take floats a ball ect it has those water sprays and a big curly slide he loves it eventhough still cant swim after 3 years of lessons bless

bettyboop63 · 28/02/2011 16:12

yes starfishmummy ds asks to go to the park but even if i take him he cant go alone as i say or even with brother or sister but he asks every time they go out or they go for a sleepover or visiting their friends can he go too i feel awful he says im mean if i dont let him play out even when its raining he says he likes the rain so why cant i play in it in shorts n tshirt barefoot

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davidsotherhalf · 01/03/2011 09:33

i tried taking ds to apologise and i was going to explain. we knocked on the door she looked out the window and ignored us....well i did try...
kids are so cruel the last lot of friends ds had gave him a bottle of juice or so they told him. they had a race to see who could drink it first...they hadn't added water to his they added vodka he ended up in hospital. thats why i have been telling him not to trust what ppl tell him.

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bettyboop63 · 01/03/2011 09:42

there comes a point like what happened to my son at the park with his older brother and sister (which was ok when he was little they looked after him fine) but now hes too old and too big and people all the more can see differences and take advantage sorry to say but maybe nows the time to stop him going out alone as he sounds hes in danger from his own inocence bless him

shazian · 01/03/2011 11:49

davidsotherhalf well at least you tried. Your poor ds what terrible friends he has. Bet you just want to wrap him up and keep him at home. Kids can be horrible at times although im sure with things like the vodka they never realised how serious the consequences would be. Hopefully your ds will get to realise not to trust what these friends tell him. At times im so glad my ds aged 10 cant be out on his own. He has severe autism, GDD, pica, low muscle tone. No sense danger, no communication. My garden is done for him soft playpark stuff on ground, big trampoline, climbing frame. He plays out for hours on his own doesnt interact with pother kids. At times i feel sorry for him in his own wee world. After reading these stories perhaps im fortunate he doesnt know any different at not going out to play with other kids. He's happy in his own world and thats all that matters. Could you perhaps talk to these friends and explain that he takes things literally and that they shouldnt do things like this, or maybe ask their parents to explain to them so that things like this dont happen again.

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