Oh Joy. The night before the first day back at school. Again.

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small scream and wibbling and that's just from me.

Much wibbling here too.

Ds1 is all over the place, lots of tears, a list of worries and fears as long as the Great Wall of China, much tic-ing and stimming etc.

I've just been sat with him on my knee for almost an hour talking it all through and going round and round in circles. Nothing I say can make it any easier for him.

The worst thing is, I know it will only get worse before it gets better. He's always a mess the first week back and we always end up with 'those chats' with his teacher after school everyday.

Sod's law would have it that we've had a really disrupted weekend as well, so no nice quiet calm before the storm.

Can't believe I'm counting down to the April holidays already!

Same here. The next week is going to be hell. sigh

dd is being very tense (that was me up there with the op under a different guise).

she's had her hair cut and thinks she will get laughed at.

she has a tummy ache

she feels sick

she's tired but won't go to bed early

she doesn't feel well.

her hair is horrible

repeat 4 million times.....

much twitching/blinking of the eyes this evening - she only does this when very tense.

And tomorrow is a TD day so will have to go through it all again for the next 24 hours..

my DS is going to a new school bless hes just going up to bed now god knows how long he will take to get to sleep and how many times he will wake then the dreaded trying to wake him in the morning when hes scared to death

we took DS2 swimming this afternoon, so thankfully he was worn out enough to sleep alright so far. Although it's the midnight - 5am stretch that is always the worst.

Ds's mood has been dropping since Friday, he is very unhappy and volatile today,giving him lots of space and few demands.School do their best but it's all too much for him nowadays

Another household wishing half term wasn't ending here.

DD1 is actually ok. Now she has a place in an Autism Base she actually looks forward to going back. I always thought people who said their children wanted to go to school were kidding themselves.

DD2 has been pale and quiet all day with the occasional freak-out about something trivial. She has been complaining of tummy-ache and hip pain all day. The problem is that I don't know how seriously to take the hip pain. We're waiting for an urgent orthopaedic referral because they've been painful for a month but they seem loads worse today. Her ASD traits mean she doesn't express pain in front of strangers or in school so heaven knows whether I should keep her at home, send her to school, go back to the GP or take her to A&E if she says they are really painful tomorrow morning.

I HATE the end of school holidays.

i would take her in but let them know shes waiting for the referal ans shes been particularly bad last few days , brill that shes liking school awkward if she wont tell them shes in pain though but maybe they can look out for it ie wincing or acting tearful maybe you can take her to the gp after school , reason i say take her to school is one shes liking it secondly she might be better as it might take her mind off it, you could ask them to not let her do PE if she usually does it, can you dose her up before school with calpol or has the gp given you something for it? hope shes ok anyway

Thanks BB. She was awake til gone midnight so no time to respond last night.

It seemed a bit better this morning so I sent her in but she won't be doing PE. The problem is that she doesn't give off any pain signals at all. She's like her sister who was discharged from hospital with a perforated appendix because she hadn't demonstrated her pain to them. AS can be a nightmare at times like that!

I'm going to phone the GP to chase up the appointment today.

Hope this morning went well for you all. We have a staff delopment day so the agony is drawn out again.

DD1 greeted me this morning with, 'I feel sick, my tummy hurts, I have a sore throat, I've got nothing to wear'. So it looks like another day of nothing but moaning, complaining and whinging.

Does that mean she's forgotten about her hair?

she hasn't mentioned it yet.... yet yet yet.....

Fingers crossed! I hope she cheers up and you get to enjoy some time together.

How interesting that DD2 also had a tummy ache, sore throat and felt sick yesterday. Maybe there's a special virus that only preys on SEN children on the last day of the holidays

her tonsils are a bit pussey (caught from nephew) but there's no point trying to do anything about it as she won't take any form of any medicine ever invented.

she's stomped off to see her friend. phew.

butyes - she definitely has the special-back -to-school-SN-virus.

I have justed dropped my three off,
one(nt) happy to go back see friends etc,
one(sn) very happy to go back as loves reception playground
and one (sn) very anxious and not wanting to go in.

He has said he is ill, has tummy ache, doesn't want to go.
He hasn't got days/time yet so I only told him last night it was school today so he has not had too much time to stress.
His teacher is horrid too so I feel soo bad leaving him there

Oh. my. god.

I may lose my mind. Got DS2 all set for school, struggled with getting dressed forever this morning. And he LIKES school, so I can't imagine the struggle if he didn't!!

But anyway.. walk to the school... gates closed and locked.

Nope. School's not starting up today. It's tomorrow! The school calendar is a bit murky - apparently there's "shading" on today's date on the calendar as well meaning holiday, but it's pretty hard to see. Saw one other family there as well, but otherwise, thought it looked a bit quiet on the walk to school. But then we take DS2 a few minutes late (at teacher's request as the 10-15 minutes prior to class starting tend to send him over the edge otherwise - not a great way to start the day!), so often it's quiet going to school.

Feeling a bit stupid.

But good god, the screaming that ensued when DS2 realised he was all ready for school and there was no school. Let's just say it was not a quiet walk home. He literally cried and screamed the entire way, refusing to walk so had to be carried, and kept trying to leg it back towards the school.

is it too early for ??

SN child happy to go back (special unit). NT one crying all the way (mainstream). Almost wish I could put him in a nice friendly little unit like his big sister. Instead he's NT and has to survive

Oh Triggles! What a nightmare. Definitely a day for a glass of the old red with lunch!

Hope he's able to calm down and enjoy the rest of his day off.

Brioche - poor ds. Why does school have to be like this? Its so not right for our dcs to spend their precious childhood feeling like that.

I've spent all morning worrying about ds2 (also NT) as he's been so run-down and poorly recently and has been off school for two weeks, including the holiday. We are seeing how he copes with school this week before the GP decides whether to refer him for further investigation, as they just don't know what's wrong with him.

Ds1 went off ok this morning, although unnervingly quiet for him. He's got swimming this afternoon, which always results in him being stressed and upset after school - so I've put dd down for an early nap and am trying to enjoy a few minutes snatched peace and quiet.

moosemama - no kidding! And DH has been cranky all morning since then as well. He had a doctor's appointment this afternoon, which I was going to drive him to, but he is now walking to it. Which is fine by me, he's done nothing but grouse all morning. He had the nerve to be annoyed with DS2 that he created a bunch of tabs on his laptop (while DH was SUPPOSED to be watching him closely to make sure he didn't go anywhere he shouldn't on the laptop). He admitted he dozed off while sitting next to him. So I told him maybe a good walk would cool him off. grrrrrrrr

Oh dear. Chin up. Maybe you'll get some peace tomorrow?

My dh just came home for lunch and reminded me that we have to book the ds's birthday trip to Legoland today or we'll end up paying full price. Good job I've already researched which hotel we want to stay in and decided on a date then! Honestly - men!

The website says we have 20 hours left before the end of the 2nd day free deal, so I've bookmarked it all and am going to make him place the actual booking this evening to make my point! He has to ring them as well to upgrade to an apartment and make sure we can bring our own travel cot for dd - he he he!

moosemama - I was directed to this company by a friend on MN. You might want to take a look at it re holidays. www.merlinsmagicwand.org/

oops...i didn't do the link right. sorry. but anyway, it's something we're looking at as well.

Oh, TRIGGLES ! I did that once too when ds was at nursery-Yes,the screaming!!

well ds was fine about school and I had to go in today and he was having a good time

....but the moving on in the morning is really difficult;going to start a new routine tomorrow if possible-just off to create a 'social story'