Ellen, yes there is, she happens to be best buddies with the nursery SENCo.
The nursery SENCo based a lot of her 'findings', and therefore her unhelpfulness, on a conversation she had with DS2 about reptiles. DS2 does not, even to this day, know what a reptile is.
It is as if because she doesn't believe it is ASD (which is a very possible truth) she is unwilling to see anything else.
Whatever is going on with him, what ever they call it, or don't call it, the fact is he needs extra help and support especially as he get's into school.
I have just read through chapter 4 of the SENCoP and then went on to read the relevent book in the SEN Toolkit. The bad news is that any and all extra help is at the nurseries descretion, but surely, from the Ed Psyche's report, the SENCo cannot still believe there is nothing going on with him. The EP's report has listed a few things she feels he would benefit from working towards, so if nothing else the SENCo has to at least do that, as a starting point?
I thought all of these people were supposed to be there for our kid's? That they are supposed to care? All I can see in my head is a picture of a poor little 4 year old boy, starting school, still in nappies, unable to dress himself after P.E., unable to hold a pen, doesn't even know which hand to hold the pen in, unable to understand half of what the teacher is saying, with no one there to give further explanations. Who will chage his nappies? What happens if he's in assembly and he has a poo? That poor kid will either have to raise his hand and tell the whole school he's had a poo, or sit there in it, letting all the kids around have a good old whiff and make their own mind's up. That is the sort of thing that will stick with him throughout his whole school life. I have said it before, I know, but we are going to end up losing him, and there isn't a damn thing we can do about it.
People say things like 'you won't lose him, you're fighting for him' etc. which is lovely, but it makes not a blind bit of difference, we could (and no doubt will) fight for him for the rest of his life, but if the professionals aren't listening, aren't willing to help, then it's out of our hands.