My child has specials needs. She's not stupid!!

[Floopytheloopy]

This makes me so cross!!

This is actually the first time i've come across this reaction regarding my dd(4).

I dropped her off for at her reception class as normal this morning and one of the teaching assistant (who was speaking to all the other children completely normally by the way) took my dd's bag and said really loudly and really slowly "good morning ***, HOW-ARE-YOU?! she knealt down and was so patronising in the way she spoke to her. Nevertheless, I just smiled at her anyway and let it go as I didn't want to make dd stand out anymore than the teaching assistant already had.

I walked home furious!! Is this a normal reaction to have? Maybe it's just because it's the first time i've seen it.

I'd have a quiet word if I were you, in a diplomatic way of course.

Yes have a word with her and make sure you talk loudly and clear .

Yes, i'll make sure i'm very clear.

What is it when people notice a disability whether it be physical or mental that they insist on talking to them like idiots.

My mum for example, has just been diagnosed with a frozen shoulder(very painful)and I was helping her with her shopping the other day. The woman on the check out for some reason assumed she was deaf. She was shouting how much she owed her and speaking to her as if she were a child. Why on earth if someone is clutching their shoulder would you assume they were deaf?!

Going back to my dd though. I know there was no malice in that teacher, but you do just think come on, get a clue! The last thing a sn child (or adult for the matter) needs is to be separated and made to feel different to everyone else. It's beyond me. Even before I had a sn child, I knew that you weren't supposed to act like that.

Yes definitely have a word with her. If other people see her speaking to your DD that way, they may think it's necessary and others may do the same thing.

No wonder your furious, i would be too. Have a quiet word when you go to pick her up today.

ive not had that but they do treat me & Dh as if its bloody catching and were all mental even if my son has SEN i dont need typing lessons though lol and i think DH has a screw or two loose but thats another story , you have to laygh or you will cry at the pure ignorance

see what i mean cant type for toffee agghhh

Very true bettyboop. Don't worry about the typing thing. I put "my child has specials needs" instead of special needs for the title.

When I was walking home I was thinking, am I wrong for thinking this? Is this what I should expect more of? Hopefully not. When you're out and about and people who don't know your child or the fact that she has SN, you would kind of expect funny looks etc sometimes, even though you do occasionally want to just punch them for being so rude. The point is though, these people are suppose to be professionals. They may not specialise in SN children, but i'm sure my dd isn't the first one she's come into contact with!!Grrrrrrrrr

Personally I'd be concerned it was one of the TAs behaving like this because I would assume all the TAs should have some involvement with him over the day.
I've only come across this reaction when people don't know ds (also 4) and just know of him and are thinking oh poor boy. No-one who knows him treats him like this.
So I'd be wondering about the class set-up and why she has nothing to do with her (assuming that is the cause of their behaviour).
Either way I'd be asking for a word with the teacher about what is going on and how to stop the TA's behaviour.