Hi,
Don't really know where to start, and please don't flail me for this but I need to get some POV and figured the mums here could help.
My ds5 started a school after an international move ly. It is a small school and he has 3 classmates and the whole school has around 30 pupils. ds is in the youngest class all the other kids are older.
After the first month he broke down one evening and said that a boy was bullying him - hitting him and name calling. He told me who it was. The next morning It was my turn for the school run. As I took ds into school the older boy in question ran up to him and started shouting right in his face and name calling. DS got very upset (very self conscious in front of big kids anyhow). So something didn't feel right, from my pov a bully wouldn't do this in front of a kids mum.
So I went to the head and told him about the situation and asked if the boy perhaps had Aspergers. This was the case, and following some meetings an extra assistant was arranged and the kids had a talk in school. Turns out that the lad has been thrown out of 3 other schools (private) as I don't think they wanted the extra expense of special care, and perhaps this was upsetting the profit margins I don't know. 
So the school proposed plan has worked so far. Except tonight my ds beaks down again as the boy has been smashing up the younger DC's games and toys and making fun and taunting. He has injured a few of his peers, but I think as they understand why this lad acts as he does they overlook his behaviour.
I have told my son to go to the assistant ( where they are during playtime I don't know) to tell them. I think the fact that this boy is quite tall and large is perhaps a little overwhelming for my ds and classmates as he is very physical with them.
I just want to know from parents with dc's with Aspergers, what do you think should be happening to protect my ds and ensure this lad is being supported? My son usually likes him, they share a lot of interests and He is such a likeable lad. I don't want him to be removed from the school, just because it is too much trouble to have him there. So what would you expect the school to do?
Have met his parents once btw, as they both work really long hours so don't do the school run.
I have to go back to school tomorrow and mention this again. So I would appreciate some feedback please?
I imagine in the UK or even state schools here there is a support network in place, but not in the international/private sector.