Ok, going through proposed statement with a fine tooth comb and a glass of wine...

[loulou77]

At what point do I just stop and write to the LA going "It's shit, it's illegal and the only use it would be to my son would be if you ripped it up into tiny little pieces and let him throw it all over him for an hour or so every day"?

Or would the Tribunal take a dim view of my attitude to negotiating down the line?

The Tribunal expect you to continue to attempt to negoiate with the LA right up to the momment you take your seat at Tribunal.

That shos that you acted reasonably and did everything you could to resolve the issue without recourse to Tribunal.

I thought they might...I mean, there's still hope that me and the nice lady at the LA can come to some agreement...even with this nugget in the document:

"DS will have access to key staff to help him express and manage his feelings...and to debrief at the end of the day"

I mean, I can sort of see where she's heading, but DS is 4, with an ASD...I can't see him knocking on the SENCOs door with a clipboard asking "do you mind if we just have a chat...I;ve had a reallt difficult day?"

thats so frustraiting isnt it loulou ive just yesterday been through mine like youve discribed,been doing colour coding the bits in the statement to the bits in recomendations/advice i had someone helping me though ,as like all of us by now were getting greyer by the second and feeling like actually pulling my hair our, stress isnt the word for it. they probably phrased it very badly my DS at 10 and even if he were 15 i KNOW he wouldnt ever ask for help ,im presuming they are recomending he has a specific time everyday he can sit down with someone/the TA or whatever and tell them how hes "feeling" my DS was encouraged to do this yeah right he has ASD he cant chat about his feelings or explain himself if he could he wouldnt be needing help in the first place aggghhh

Do remember that they write the statement and it stays like that until they look at it again when he is 11. The most important thing in it for his schooling is the number of hours they are going to give to the school - how much dosh is attached to it. In actual fact that sentence is fine. They have to write it for when he is 6, 7 , 8. Yes it might be odd to visualise your son sitting down talking about 'debriefing' but actually they can hardly write:
x will have a daily meeting with a nice kind person who will go and find him and check that he he is OK. She will have comfy arms and broad shoulders if he wants to cry.

i find these things are rarely followed through for long they do diff stratagies for a few weeks and trail off but even than children with ASD are not always able however good their intentions may be to chat about how their days been or how they feel none of these ideas worked at all with my DS sometimes they treat them as if there stupid and they certainly are not and my son will catagorically say im not going to do that idea im not a baby bless him

I take your point flyingmum...plus I am trying not to amend where we are just talking language not meaning...I know from my lawyer days pre-DC how a hacked to pieces contract for the sake of it got my hackles up...

and grey hair, yup got a few more of those