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Aspergers & speech disorder almost 7 yr old

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sotilltomorrow · 09/02/2011 20:54

Called up for a word in playground, on hearing concerns asked teacher for privacy.
My son is diagnosed Aspergers & significant speech disorder. On Assisted support plan level 4 (Scotland)(statutory support level).

He hit another child to the ground, big push apparently. He wrote pretty shocking message to another child in his group on a whiteboard.

He is, as said, almost 7, never hit another child in school / nursery setting. Did kick & heatbutt staff in council nursery when 3/4 yrs old before diagnosis. Changed nursery & things improved, now about 18 months into formal education, two schools(first chosen for small size but journey there & back with now diagnosed autistic child non-viable) (primary) & no further violence to others (aside me).

Feel awful, have been cajoling him into school repeating lately 'soon be holidays' & feel if I had just recognised his angst & kept him off for a few days he wouldn't have kicked off at other child.

The whiteboard writing seems to be in response to provocation, seperate incident & child to the 'pushing' incident.

Have to note he has been subject to bullying himself by others groups of children, involving physical violence.

It all kicks off again.... school I am sure get extra funds for my child's diagnosis & level of need yet he has been failed for it to reach this level. (His class teacher hadn't even been informed of diagnosis at start of school year (I did let my disappointment be known) & now my son is no longer passive...

Teacher noted a problem Friday, & since problem has escalated as detailed, told me today, Wednesday.
Had I been told Friday things might have been contained.
She'd never heard of a home/school book when I brought it up.

Answers to cope with stress. Or I may just go insane... again!

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sotilltomorrow · 09/02/2011 21:02

Finding it hard as he has never hit out at another child before.

Just got to decipher the reasons.

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Thecarrotcake · 09/02/2011 21:19

I think this is where you ask the school to help with the reasons behind what is going on.. If they and you both use a STAR .. Setting, trigger, action, response log you should get to the bottom of things. ( just google STAR and asd and it should bring up a good explination :))

lead by proactive example :)

superfantastic · 09/02/2011 21:27

Im not sure how it works in Scotland but I too would be concerned at the communication issues between you and school. Saying that we havent had success with our home/school diary at our school (but are moving). Can you demand an urgent meeting with HT/SENCO?

Are quiet spaces an option in school, extra physical exercise to help destress? Although is part of the issue the learnt behaviour?

Mt DD doesnt get violent but self harms and refuses to talk, it takes her several days to tell me if something has happened, I understand your frustration.

tabulahrasa · 09/02/2011 21:28

well I'd assume either someone provoked him or he's decided from being bullied that it was an appropriate action

but without knowing what happened you're not going to know why really

what support does he get?

oh and while yes his teacher should have been told - ultimately it's the teacher's responsibility to check pupil information, the only teacher we had that didn't bother to do that was a complete nightmare to work with, completely ignorant about ASN provision and my son's needs

zzzzz · 09/02/2011 21:36

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sotilltomorrow · 09/02/2011 22:54

This is a wonderful board, I have read through many YEARS of back pages that helped get me through assorted trials till now.

Thank you for your replies.

My son's teacher explained at great length how he laughed when told off.
Tried to explain that inappropriate laughter is par for the course with a child on the spectrum.

Just gets so trying... & he's only 6!

Thanks again, all advice taken onboard.

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tabulahrasa · 09/02/2011 23:56

I'm in Scotland if you need anything Scotland specific - my son's in secondary now and I've done teacher training, so I've a fair idea of both how the system's supposed to work and how it actually works, lol

unfortunately his class teacher can have made it this far without any knowledge about Asperger's - the support for learning teacher usually does what would be the SENCO's job in England

so if the class teacher doesn't know about anything, try talking to SfL, even if there's no SfL involvement they'll still have a better working knowledge of what's available

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