Fed up of fighting...

[IhateSunday]

I am getting fed up to the back teeth of fighting and fighting with schools, LEA's, whichever professional it is at the time, take your pick..... to get the right level of support in situ for my LO.. this is what she deserves, she has as much right as anyone to a fair and worthwhile education.. Year 2 and we are still no closer...

The whole world of SEN and LEA's needs a fucking rocket up it's arse.. too many kids,
that show such promise and potential, are slipping through the net, and i'm so scared ,my LO will be one of them.

rant over, sorry bad day....

You are not alone in this, we got to the point of Disability Discrimination Act and Human Rights Act - Access to Education proceedings against my sons school - he is 6. It was one long constant fight. We hit them with the evidence, sent copies to the LEA [my son had a full SSEN - which was being ignored, apart from the school taking the funding, of course.] Everyone said how dreadful it was, that the school had failed my son, then it was - but you are alone if you want to take this further - seems people are too worried about their jobs to put their money where their mouths are. Everything was 'off the record, we saw this happening...'

So we took him out of the school, and he is now Home Educated - I tell you, it's the best thing I ever did....and when people ask why - they get told chaper and bloody verse!

its a hard long road chin up Ihatesunday, it is scary it is a worry but your DC is in a way one of the lucky ones (really) because your LO has you and your obviously a good mum some poor kids out there dont have anyone to fight for them god only knows what happens to them scratch that reverse I guess thats the scary part we KNOW what happens to them you will make it stick your ground shout loudly and dont be afraid to ask for help have a cuppa or some wine and smile n wave

It is so hard and I would wish it on anyone. I know its no consilation and it shouldnt be like this, but when I have days when I feel like you do I remember what I am fighting for and it makes it all seem a bit more worthwhile.

Have a nice long bath and a cuppa :)

feeling exactly the same today....rude annoying phonecall from Ed Psych today, followed by me composing yet another long snotty letter...sigh...just another in a looooong line of battles along the way.
Meanwhile dd (also in Y2) is the one that is missing out and suffering....sigh

Me too, feeling a bit better today but some days are harder. Just know that with you on your LOs side, fighting for her Im certain she will reach anything she can :)

Hi there, just joined the site and wow I am not alone anymore. I feel utterly ground down by all the battles and getting very familiar with the DDA now and citing it in various situations. The last year has been particularly bad and my increased consumption of wine and chocolate is really telling. As for the LEA don't even go there.
I sometimes think that coping with the politics is far worse than coping with my ds's problems and that's saying something.
I've applied for direct payments and got it for help with homework, this will relieve one big pressure, I am trying to force myself out a bit more with friends, despite exhaustion, this is refreshing and I am planning the odd girlie weekend away, doesn't have to be expensive. It sucks that we have to battle all the way, but am trying to engage with SENS governors and inclusion service managers to flag up problems and maybe get change for kids coming up behind, though frankly don't hold out much hope as we are a minority, but at least it makes me feel better that am trying to do something.

My daughter is now 10 and she moves up to Seniors this September. I fought here in Liverpool for over 5 years with the Education at our LA. Thinking I was doing the right thing, I took her to mainstream nursery and school. I joined groups, became involved with our localParent Partnership, was active on the Liverpool Parent & Carer Forum, helped to design and re write publications for children with disabilities,wrote and designed an inforamtion directory for parents of disabled children and wrote a children book about accepting diversity, I co-trained professionals working with our children, became the SEN Governor in school, skilled myself up with as much SEN information as possible, sat on SEN Forums, was a stake holder in out Team Around The Chjild Colegge, trained up in person centered planning etc etc.........battle with the LA over 1/1 support for her in school although she was statemented and was entitled to consistent 1/1..but as their policy was to employ agency staff to do this very skilled 1/1 job, the 1/1 was disgusting and she had so many diferent in experienced people that she was traumatised by it all....
After making waves and creating ripples I made some enemies with the LA and they got fed up with me...........my daughter could have thrived in mainstream school if the LA had put in the resources, right training etc etc..and adjusted the environment to meet her needs.....BUT THEY DIDNT AND STILL DONT.....after an accident left me disabled, I eventually took her out of the school that was traumatising her, and she is now in special primary and she loves it.....it's not ideal for allchildren and yes she should be in mainstream but they could not meet her needs and I wouldnt make her suffer for mine or societies idealism or our different perceptions of inclusion. She is more included now than she has ever been in her schoollife thus far..............keep on fighting guys but if you haved to home school so be it....until they get wise to our kids needs they will keep on with their 'inclusion' with putting the resources in to make it work and our kids will suffer....I tried to make them listen, I tried to suggest better practise but they didnt want to listen...................
We have to fight for our kids, all their life..I know that now
Glen Fletcher, in Liverpool...