made a show of myself at school gate

[NotRocketSurgery]

mother of child who happens to have been bullying my ds [whole other story] was blocking my way through narrow back gate of school, but rather than just moving out of the way, she made some sarky comment.... oh dear

it ended with her calling me an F-ing fat cow and me pulling my tongue out at her

if I hadn't known whose mother it was I would just have put my head down and pretended not to hear

Oops. Sometimes these things have to be said.

I've just told the school nurse where she can shove her stupid ideas and lack of understanding. I also didn't say it in a particularly nice way.

its horrible isnt it why do people have to be so blatently arsey and rude ,sorry to hear your having such troubles i really do know how you feel, my DS is ASD and he was bullied by a group of boys (their mothers thought they were saints that could do no wrong) and i even had one say once its his own fault what do you expect hes different , you cant say anything to put these people in their place they have no empathy (ha and they say kids with ASD dont have empathy)ive got a new philosophy now as i dont want to stoop to their level my son says it all the time he loves madagascar ,"smile and wave,just smile and wave" it really gets their goat much more lol

That's awful. It's no wonder our kids have such a bloody hard time of it....the parents are even worse.

This isn't finished probably so, next time you see her just look 4 inches past her. She won't know whether you're looking at her or not. Don't rise to her insults.

Failing that, speak to the head. Perhaps a bullying "zero tolerance" message needs to be reinforced........for the kids and for those parents who've never grown up and still get some satisfaction out of intimidating others at the school gate.

Chin up, love!

There is a quote I saw somewhere and it makes me laugh. I tend to repeat it as I walk through school on a tough day with ds.

"When I walked away it doesnt mean you have won..........it means I am tired of listening to your B*S**T" :o

thanks guys for your wise words - you've made me smile with the "smile and wave" advice - you've cheered me up just thinking about it

hello birds hello trees :)

Sounds like she showed herself up a lot more than you did!

Sounds like the child gets his behaviour from the mum !

agree-try not to get dragged back into it-

Excuse me, but she was verbally abusive and you're embarrassed?

She shouldn't be making sarky comments and she shouldn't be calling you names within earshot of children.

She should be grovelling to you for the way she has lowered raised her son and promising - and acting upon - all sorts of changes. I think sticking your tongue out was extremely restrained!

Oh, and she shouldn't be so fat she blocks an entire gateway with her arse.

Well have a go at her for being unpleasant and having a foul child but not about her appearance. Or it makes you as bad as her.

I speak as a 'fat cow' of course.

lol@spinkle i like that

LOL spinkle I agree!

OP says "it ended with her calling me an F-ing fat cow" not OP calling child.

I think you were remarkably restrained to only stick your tongue out at her. Only abuse I've had was from a contractor working at the school who got all arsey aerated because I had parked blocking him in. He even carried on effing a blinding at me in front of my two children aged 3 and 4 one of whom is in a wheelchair and was the reason I had parked there in the first place! The reason I am impressed with your restraint is that I shouted back - not like me at all but don't mess with me in Mummy mode!

well she was right about me being a bit on the lardy side -
the F-ing is pretty much a distant memory tho

off we go, smiling and waving....smiling and waving