Told today son has hit himself a few times...

[thebeansmum]

I have a son in Y3, teacher never felt it necessary to speak to us over anything before, however at pick up today he said ds had hit himself a few times, had been difficult to settle all day and had we noticed at home if he constantly touches walls, furniture etc. Answer would be I really hadn't noticed, but will watch him. Said he also feels ds is happier and concentrates better working at a table alone. I really felt he was trying to 'get at something' without actually saying it, if you know what I mean. He said ds tries really hard and is not being naughty. Help! I'm really worried as they said it's 'something they are going to start monitoring' that expression always makes me imagine they think there's a real problem. He asked if anything had happened over the weekend (?) and nothing diff than normal has - sports clubs, later night on Sat (as usual) Sorry if I'm rambling, but I am worried.

Try not to worry (hard I know) The fact that the school have come to you is a good sign it shows they care that something is not quite right at the moment. Lots of children get distracted when in a group and then produce good work on their own.

I would just let the school monitor his behaviour for a period of time. Book an appointment with them say in 2 or 3 weeks time to discuss their findings. At the same time monitor your son at home and make a diary of sorts with your own findings that you have concern over and take it to the school with you when you have the meeting.

There might not be a problem. It might mean that he is just having a stressy time if the school has notice no problems before this. Keep calm about it all. If the school decides he needs extra help then that is only going to be of benefit to your ds :)

thanks so much, I'm teary at the moment and reading your post made me cry, you're so kind! Since I posted, dh has come in and we have gone thru it all in minute detail, and spoken to ds who insists he was only hitting himself 'cos I was showing off to Francesca' I will take your advice, dh said to call in on Friday as half term the week after to see how the week has gone, I'll have a think. Thanks coff33pot xx

Good that you got your dh to talk to :)

And yes with half term coming up it would be good to see the school well before. I would make an appt though as you dont want to be disapointed that you cant see them. I would just check with his teacher each day and ask on his progress. Then have a proper appt if you feel the need to discuss further.

Spend the hols just watching your son and noting any concerns you might have. I did that and was able to form some sort of pattern to things that just were not quite right. Just try to keep level headed about it all (says me who is her own worst enemy :o )

All kids show off :) and it does sound like a first instance of this especially as the teacher asked if anything had happend over the weekend. It obviously was odd behaviour to her and not the norm so I would stay positive because I am sure if he was continually doing it then they would have said so. :)

If the teacher mentions any more about his behaviour in class it might be worth asking for them to complete a Home Book writing down the good as well as the bad moments. They use to do it in my ds nursery so I knew what his day had been like. It might help you see a pattern to his problems at school ie. a particular clash with a teacher or always seems to be maths he is upset in etc. My sons school is writing in a home book for me and it is a great help as it saves quizzing the child on the events of the day :)

I am new here but there are loads of great ppl that give great advice through there own experiences. If you need to talk I would make a post next time in the special needs children section as you would probably get a quicker reply :)

Good luck have a big hug with dh and some chocolate! xx