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I feel a bit of a useless friend :(

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LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 09:45

Well, I've known my friend H for nearly 4 years, and we've never come across a CP related issue while we've been out. Until last night, at an ice hockey game with our 2 friends.

When her hip came out.

And I was hopelessly panicked and worried, and useless. Managed to get a message to our friends (we sit by the ice, they're in the stands, as H uses a wheelchair), then just, cried. I was worried, had no idea what to do, what was going to happen or anything, and hated seeing a friend in pain and not being able to do anything.

A LOVELY man who we sit with had a WAV, as his partner travels in her wheelchair, and a good thing too, as the team doctor was so close to calling an ambulance. This lovely guy dropped us at A&E, and we waited.

For 2 hours, with H's hip still out. Because there were no trollies so we couldn't go to X-ray. Then our friends arrived after the game, and we got a cubicle. Then when she was in x-ray her hip popped back in, but she had one sort of numb patch on her leg. So that set me off crying again, as I'd been regularly updating H's mum and faced the prospect of telling her that H was being admitted. At a hospital in Manchester, when we live in Staffordshire.

Then luckily, they said it was because a nerve had been bruised, and we were free to go. We arrived at 7pm, we left at midnight.

I just wish I'd been calmer and more, with it, if you know what I mean. I felt so hopeless and rubbish, and H was just...calm. Her hip's come out before so she's used to it.

I honestly don't know how you lovely ladies cope when your dc's are in hospital, as this was only a friend and it just threw me! So, we learnt that the ice hockey community looks after their own last night, apparently loads of people were asking after H after we'd left, which was lovely to know.

Anyway, sorry, I'm tired, and needed to write it all down, and I know you lot won't tell me to get a grip! Well, you might, but you'll be nice about it!

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bigcar · 07/02/2011 09:54

you did great, a useless friend would have gone home and left her at a&e Smile How's H today?

LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 09:58

I've not heard from her yet, we got home at gone 1am so I'm going to wait til mid afternoon-ish to text her and find out. She was just told not to weightbear on it for a couple of days, so I think she'll (like me and all concerned) just be very, very tired, and possibly a bit sore. Will update you all when I know :)

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NorthernSky · 07/02/2011 10:26

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intothewest · 07/02/2011 10:33

A new situation you'd not experienced before-you got a message to your friends,you stayed with her and updated her mum- It's difficult to see someone in pain;it just shows what a nice,good friend you are !

LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 12:53

Actually, do you know something? I forgot to mention this but it shows how much of a good friend H is. She said, "LV, if the others get here before I go into x-ray, I think I'd prefer Y to come in with me, because if they pull it back in, I don't want you to see me go through that." Which I thought was very sweet.

However, she's just rung her mum as her leg has gone even more numb :( Bit worried now :(

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LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 13:20

BUM!

She thinks it's about to pop out again :(

Really hope this time, if she goes to hospital, it STAYS PUT! :(

Can't be with her today, and have no one to talk to as all those involved last night are at work and I don't want to panic them :(

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LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 13:40

She's going to A&E by ambulance :(

Sorry to keep posting, but everyone who was involved last night is at work and would panic if I sent a text :(

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NorthernSky · 07/02/2011 13:51

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bigcar · 07/02/2011 13:58

they will look after H, try not to worry, it'll mean a lot to know you're thinking of her.

LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 14:07

I suppose, one sort of good thing is that if she's gone in by ambulance, they might sort her out quicker. I hope so, because she pretty much had to hold onto her hip last night, another 5 hours of that will not make her a happy bunny!

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NorthernSky · 07/02/2011 17:26

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LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 17:43

Thanks. I now know, she's in hospital. Whether she's been admitted, what they're doing, or why her hip dislocated again, I don't know. I'm sure I'll hear more when she can get to her phone :)

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signandsmile · 07/02/2011 18:56

Thinking of H (and you). I broke my leg ice skating once and friend was with me, all he did was stay with me, come to hosp and ring my mum, but it made a real difference. don't belittle what you were able to do, we all learn from experience. Smile

LollipopViolet · 07/02/2011 19:27

Oh bum. She's been discharged (yay!) but her surgeon wants her in tomorrow to discuss surgery. Possibly a massive operation, but I don't know what it's called. They basically break all the bones in her legs, reallign them, then six weeks after do the same with her muscles. She'd be in Wales for 18 months approximately :(

Must not cry...

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bigcar · 08/02/2011 07:51

hope today goes well lollipop

LollipopViolet · 08/02/2011 19:23

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes and YES!!!!

Apparently, her consultant thinks surgery isn't needed now, and it might never be needed!!!!

YAY!

Thank you so much for your support ladies, it's really helped.

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NorthernSky · 08/02/2011 19:29

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Lougle · 08/02/2011 20:21

Great Grin

bigcar · 08/02/2011 20:24

that's good to hear Smile

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