and now some insomnia aswell..any thoughts ?

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ds2 (11) was fine at primary school but moody at home. he then started secondary where it went horribly wrong.
He became more and more miserable and was on a very short fuse. he hated the place , he said he didnt feel safe, had no friends, there was general bullying and he couldnt hack it.
he was having terrible tantrums at home saying he wanted me to ill him and he stopped doing any work in class.
The school were rubbish. They said they thought something was wrong with him and suggested aspergers.
I got him out of there and have been trying to home educate since then whilst waiting for a transfer to another school.
he hasnt got any better , he is fine and happy whilst he is doing some things , things he really likes but he is having regular flip outs and i am finding it hard to control him.
he has always needed a lot of sleep and has always talked and walked in his sleep alot but this last 2 weeks he has been getting up in the night and getting really angry that he cant sleep.
I dont know how to help him. last night i was so tired i shouted at him for being selfish and making me lose sleep aswell
He is going through puberty at the moment which i think is playing a part but how much can be blamed on that ?
we have a referral to the asd people of cahms but im not so sure if its asd. i asked for the referral because of the school saying that.He also has absence seizures.

its got so confusing so far i have thought it was bullying , aspergers , depression , anxiety , extremely naughty child , i just dont know and i have had enough

that should have said 'kill' him and he has been out of school since 1st december.

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Cheery have a search on this board for red/ yellow card and traffic light systems for behaviour. Also trampolines / excerise, music, epsom salts and lavender oil can all help out..
They aren't going to work straight away but they may improve things whist your waiting for CAMHs.

Puberty is rubbish and I'm never quite sure what is asd.. Or hormones in this house.. But I go by the rule of acceptable or not. ( it makes it easier if your not trying to second guess all of the time).

Also start a STAR log up , setting, Trigger, action, response.. And keep a diary camhs including anything you try for a reasonable amount of time.

my DS is ASD and 10 ,and i think as ive heard can be common that a lot of our DC go through puberty early i did at 10 my son was being bullied and no ammount of talking to the schools HT helped and in the end he was self harming and trying to run away we were also ref to CAMHS i was advised to ring the help line every single time h had a meltdown and mentioned hurting/or actually hurt himself, its a terrible worry isnt it you could try when you finally do get to see CAMHS to see if the specialist will sign the form that will allow at least while hes medically too ill to go to school (as this is from a different budget) get him a home tutor if you are finding handling him too hard as same thing was happening to me he wouldnt do the work the school were giving me but as soon as the tutor met him and he had those bounderies again he worked much better for her the form is from the behaviour team called a medical referal this has to be signed by a paed at child development or psychologist from CAMHS not a gp HTH good luck

www.education.gov.uk/publications/standard/publicationdetail/page1/DFES%2f0025%2f2002 link here to relevant legislation about access to education for children and young people with medical needs.

thankyou