SENCO has phoned my sons paed today and requested a letter stating they support home tuition?

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I didnt know anything about this until his nurse rang at 6.30 tonight to tell me.

My sons attendance is probably below 60% ish i should think now, so might have prompted it. I have a tribunal date for 28/6 after a request for SA was turned down.

Son is year 1 and his paed knows we now need to seperate his medical and behavioural difficulties, i think the medical problems have been blamed because its hormones.

SENCO told the nurse that my son wouldnt get statemented, the nurse is also writing a letter for me to take to the TAC meeting next week stating that my sons paed wants him assessed for the statementing process.

Im a bit confused actually, are the school being helpful here OR is this the school washing their hands of him? I was hopeful that long term my son would get assessed, if there is a behavioural difficulty it would get diagnosed and he would get more support, and a happy ending.

Nurse is also referring him to the psychologist in GOSH as we have spent 2 years being batted around by CAMHS

thats home tuition as in getting someone to come to our home, but obviously that will take months to set up IF it ever happened

It's excellent ammo for you at tribunal as it shows school cannot support is needs.

If the Paed wants him assessed then the Paed should have the courage of their convictions and put it in writing instead of whispering behind your back

hi wetaugust, the go between today was the young nurse who told me she had no idea about statementing etc but does know that we have trouble with my sons behaviour. i think she just went along with what the senco said too be honest. When i said i wanted my son assessed she said she would type up a short letter tonight before she went home to say about my son being assessed for a statment. must admit i had requested this a month ago and was told the letter was on the computer but amongst loads more and was waiting to be signed by the paed and ive never had it. the paed has witnessed the behaviour a few times.

ii think the schools concern is me getting him into school, wether they are finally realising that there is a problem at school that is stopping him wanting to happily hop skip and jump in is beyond me. the senco yesterday was confronted with my son refusing to enter the building and hiding behind a post and telling her he was scared, she said to him that he was ok on friday (he did manage 9 to 1 and came out happy)so couldnt understand what he was scared about, with that he turned his back on her and she said he was rude and that she had run out of ideas now. This is the behaviour I have to deal with for his whole life! He then proceeded to moan to me about the squeaky door and why cant the bloody teachers oil it and whacked me one

im just thinking now that if the teachers produces her letter that hospital support home tuition and then i produce my letter saying they support an assessment for a statement is that ok? should i tell her, im a bit peeved that she didnt contact me 1st to say she was ringing the hospital. they have done this before and i complained

sorry thats long winded

It is very wrong of school to contact hospital without informning you and gaining your consent.

I put a stop to this nonsense with a letter to the LA fprobidding them to contact my son's Drs and telling them I wanted to be present when any medical detials were discussed. Personally i think it's outrageous that school did this.

You letter saying x,y, x supports an assessment will carry no weight - the Paed or whoever has to wrte their own letter of support for an assessment.

It does sound like school have no ASD awareness as they are miscontruing his anxiety, lack of social skills and sensory issues as 'rudeness' - when it's not.

Home ed by the LA is very expensive. It may make them hurry more to find a permanent placement that can support him.

We recently had an issue with the senco calling DS2's paed (although it was with the best intentions, it was out of line), and after speaking about this to headteacher, senco, and paediatrician (who was quite annoyed as she was told I was aware of the call, which I was not), everyone is now on the same page. Senco is fully aware now that she is not to contact paed directly unless she has discussed it with me fist, otherwise she goes through me. It was over a minor issue, but I felt it was important to point out that the boundaries were overstepped immediately. The whole "start as you mean to go on" thing.

I think that you need to be clear to the school that this is out of line. Our situation was a bit more benign, but in your situation I think it might be best to put it in writing. It sounds like the school is working against what you want instead of trying to work with you. Can you meet with the senco and firmly point out what you're expecting from this and find out where they are thinking?

You apply for the statement - don't wait for school. SENCO can't say whether he'll get it or not. The way she handled your ds in that distressed situation was awful.

oh sorry just seen that you already have and are waiting for tribunal date

thanks wet august,thats exactly what i said to my mum that he wasnt being rude, its just him and how he deals with things. triggles i think il say at the meeting on tuesday that i dont want the hospital contacted without my permission and then ask for that to be minuted in the meeting notes. cornsilk , yep got tribunal date...would be a lot cheaper to assess him, get him a statement and keep him in school rather than wasting money at tribunals and then the LA paying home tuition BUT i know from here this appears to be a normal route we have to take

I would also say something to whoever they would speak to at the hospital as well. If an issue ever came up and it was legally challenged, the school would get no sanctions as while it's not really on for the school to contact the medical profession directly, they are not violating any laws (that I'm aware of). However, the medical facility as well as the professional who spoke to them could lose so much more - they could face penalty fines as well as the possibility of the professional losing their job or getting a professional sanction of some sort. They have SO much more to lose in that situation than the school.

thankyou triggles, we are at the hospital next week so il definitly have a word with the staff. i have phoned the SENCO today and told her that im not very happy she phoned the hospital, no mention of home tuition?! she said she was ringing to find out if his admission for the day next week would effect him having lots of time off school! I told her that if she had asked me I would have told her (as i already have) that it is a day admission for scans etc and wouldnt make him unwell. Shes fine and I did ask that she doesnt ring them without first asking my permission and that I had this problem in reception with his previous teacher, this teacher/senco is much easier to communicate with and say how i feel without being too defensive, thank god