not sure whats going on

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my son suddenly hates school and is getting worked up and very upset about going to school,suffering headaches,stomach aches and whimpering in his sleep.

he has a few issues that hopefully have been sorted out yet hes still unhappy keeps saying his TA shouts at him and doesnt like him.

obviously i have brought this up with the school and the TA has been spoken to and shes now being nice to him, but hes fretting shes going to shout at him again.

i have just recieved a call saying hes still saying hes scared his TA is going to tell him off if he cant do something thats why he now hates school.

i did say im quite concerned that he has lost his trust in her,straight the way i was threatened with a emergancy review and that would mean he would be removed from mainstream school and it would mean that he would have to go to a special school.

im not very happy to be threatened surely if a child is not comfortable with a TA something can be done or at least be changed for next year(she was employed for one year only as my sons TA)i was told they prefer to change a TA each year so a child does not become reliant on them.

this flipping TA has had loads more time off than my son who up to december had a 100% attendence.the school say in a nice round about way hes a liar,she denied being snappy and the school say she is doing her job above the call of duty.

Oh No :(

Do you think they don't want him and are using this as an excuse to remove him?

Do you want him to stay in MS?

Don't know what you can do about either his anxiety or his TA. Hopefully someone else will be along soon.....

Even if they hold an emergency review that does not mean that he will have to go to special school - they can only take a child out of mainstream if the parent agrees, or being in mainstream is incompatible with the provision of education to other children. The LA have to show that there are no steps they could reasonably take to prevent it being incompatible for your child to stay in mainstream.

Does he have a statement? If not he has to be in mainstream.

s.316 Education Act 1996 (as amended in 2001)

I can't see the LA wanting to give out a special school place purely on the basis a TA can't get on with the child. If your child did not have a disability and just had a personality clash with a teacher you would not expect the teacher to be able to just give up on the child. That would be unprofessional. If they threaten you with a review it might not be that bad to have one as the school would then need to justify their actions to outside professionals.

Are there any professionals eg EP or outreach who could intervene eg sit in and observe and see what the problem actually is ad whether the TA is being as fantastic at their job as they say they are

What is your ds's dx? If he's anything like my dd1 (AS) then the TA may have slightly raised her voice which to him was a huge shock and he is getting him self worked up incase she does it again, dd1 dwells on things for ages and if she gets told off (for something small like talking when she shouldn't be) trhen she can be anxious for days . So the TA might not be in the wrong, she may have just told him off and he took it very badly. I think you need to find out why the TA raised her voice (find the cause)and then talk it through with your ds (maybe using a social story), then the TA needs to regain the trust with your ds.

I ofen have to go into school to talk to dd's teacher as dd1 is anxious after being told off, i think the teacher thinks i'm a pain in the bum .

Hope you manage to sort something out with the school and the TA.

yes he has a statement and has had a fulltime TA for the last 4 years, this has never happened before nor with teachers even when hes got told off.

he has learning difficulties,dyspraxia and a language disorder basically the dyspraxia impacts on the other disorders.

he had a statement review in december all was fine then,everyone was really pleased with him he was trying really hard and he was very well behaved and he had made alot of progress.

hes saying she gets annoyed when he cant do something she raises her voice and says things like "what do you mean you cant read that word,yes you can you read it earlier" or "thats not it is it"(by the nature of my sons dyspraxia his mind can go blank and he cant remember things and has a very poor short term memory)i get the feeling its her tone that gets him into a panic and hes worked himself up over it.the TA has admitted to me before shes pushed him to hard and hes burst into tears,she says shes trying to encourage him my son says different and she shouts and tuts.i have already expressed my concern that i dont think she quite gets dyspraxia and maybe some training is needed.

its so hard to work out whats going on he was crying this morning on and off working with his TA kept asking to go home saying he wants to be homeschooled. this afternoon he had music and didnt need a TA ,they got split into groups to do singing performances in front of the class one kid in his group offered to do part of the song on his own then got all flustered and my son came to his rescue and sang to the whole class on his own,which is a big thing considering hes got a language disorder and the wholeclass was waving their arms in the air in time to the music.