Advice needed - quickly...

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My DS has a statement for ASD, is in MS and been coping very well so far. Has a 1 to 1 who now appears to have been put into a jobshare with the TA, so in our opinion is not given the time that he has been allocated with her. However, his confidence has grown over the past year and a half (he is in Year1), mainly due to the fact that he has made close friendships.
When I asked him who he sat with at lunch (he usually sits with the same two people who are close friends), he said that he did not sit near those two as the teachers said that he was not allowed to sit with them anymore. When I asked the teacher about this, it transpired that this was as a result of the mother of one of the children saying that she did not want her son to sit with my son any more.
My son has done nothing wrong. He can sometimes be over-affectionate but as a result, he has been isolated from the two people that he regarded as friends. I have seen the boy be extremely rude to my son (examples being - get out of the way, I can't see the TV, when my son was merely saying hello to him) and the mother has not intervened in the slightest, but should I put up with the fact that he says that he is no longer allowed to play/ sit next to his two 'proper friends' when he has done nothing wrong? He is not aggressive - very passive - if anything. I am fuming as he has done so well to integrate into ms. I need advice as the best way to approach this.

Did you clear up everything with the parent? And did you get her version of events?
Have you copied the page in the home/school book that has this information - just incase it has an unfortunate accident at school and cannot be found ?
The teacher will as zzzzz says, have to defer to the HT for how to respond as it has now been taken above her head. Her choice of words is strange. Surely words like 'been a misunderstanding' etc would have been more appropriate than 'stories'. 'stories' implies lying/fiction - and you have evidence to the contrary.
Please let us know how you get on.

Meeting scheduled with headmaster, SENCO, teacher, SNA and link worker on Wednesday. In the meantime, received letter from father of other child to say how these are wholly false allegations and how I have been offensive and insulting to them. I cc'd them on the letter to keep everything in the open so they wouldn't hear rumours from teachers etc. Stated it all factually. This has all escalated into something unnecessary and all to protect my child and to find out whether anyone at school is actually looking out for him with his having a statement. Been so upset by all this. Can't believe how unfair things can be at times.

In the meantime, received letter from father of other child to say how these are wholly false allegations and how I have been offensive and insulting to them

Hmmm - I wonder who told him about your so-called allegations - sounds like school did

WetAugust, yes, that did cross my mind... We have meeting on Wednesday. I think I mentioned that when TA is not there (ie most afternoons), looks as though DS's SNA is being TA. Should a class always have teacher, TA and SNA if needed? Concerned that DS's needs not being met as SNA now has a role of looking after all children with teacher if TA not around.If we have a statement, should SNA surely be there for the hours allocated to work around DS? Mother who complained also does reading with the children once a week. Not wanting to get personal but surely if she is being 'employed' by the school, she should be there and fair to every child in the class and not request that a child be removed from her son. It is almost that she has seen more than the other mothers to request that my DS is taken away from hers, despite their quite clearly getting on.
Did not take DS to school on Wednesday as had not heard back from headmaster and quite frankly fed up but apparently, other mother was hugged by all sorts of teachers, (obviously) for all the suffering that she has endured as a result of this. Ccd her on the letter as she was a friend and |I wanted to make everything clear from the outset. Wanted to photocopy a whole load from DS's home/ school book and oddly enough it did not come home this weekend. Am expecting huge chunks to be ripped out by Monday...

One question - are all classes in primary supposed to have main teacher and TA? Does a school decide on whether a TA is needed. Does it sometimes happen that a sna is job-shared with the TA?

Just to report that meeting with headmaster yesterday went well and the school are going to work with us on addressing the issues. relieved that the meeting has been and relieved that school appear to be on our side