Great stuff and not so great.

[Ineedalife]

Just thought I would let you all know that Dd3 got up, dressed and ready for school completely independently this morning, using her visual timetable.

It is massive progress in only 2 weeks she has gone from needing single instructions to this.

Thanx to all those who suggested it..

A bit of a moan to though, everytime I think Dp has got it he shows me that he hasn't, yesterday Dd3 went in the fridge to get her usual snack for playtime and found that Dad had bought the wrong kind of cheese strings, she was soo upset because this meant she "couldn't have one" and DP got cross with her for making a fuss. I am supposed to be grateful that he has done the shopping.

I wish I could make him "get it".

Sorry moan over.

Great news with the timetable!
My DD loves hers and it has helped calm her down sooo much....it has now turned into the visual wall! :)

My DP took a while to get it too...but he is much better now :) ...apart from the jokes that DD doesnt understand!

With you on the Dp bit Ineedalife. My DH is the same. Not long ago he took the 3 DS out to the park. They were 'starving' on the way home and popped in the local shop. Now all 3 are dairy free, so what did he get? Chocolate. 2 things here. First, why didn't he take something with him (plenty here) and secondly, in the entire local shop, he could only find chocolate and nothing else that the boys could eat?
Does ABA work on Dps and DHs? TBH, i should really do a visual timetable for DH on how to get the boys ready to go out for a short trip. Anyone already tried this?

Unbelievable auntevil[well almost].

Hope your boys were ok after the choc.

Don't know about ABA because I have never done it but I think my DP would forget to look at a visual timetable.

Mind you sometimes I am able to laugh about it, like the time when he forgot to take a snack to the cinema and got stung for 7 quids worth of popcorn. Cos Dd3 couldn't go in without something to eat.

Ineedalife - unfortunately i can usually out do most unbelievable other half stories with my DH turning up to meet us at the school fair (as he had better things to do) - at the wrong school. I don't even think that a visual timetable would have helped with that basic error

Ineed well done your DD.

It's a lovely feeling when something like that works. We've been using a written timetable for DD1 since September with me scaffolding it with time checks and reminders. The week before last DD2 and I both had flu and were laid flat. I couldn't do my normal job of scaffolding DD1 so she stepped up and did it all herself. She has carried on since then and school mornings are much nicer as a result.

We've tried stepping back before but didn't have the timetable to help her so it was disastrous. I feel like we got something right this time!

Al1son.. well done to your Dd too, you are right it is lovely when something clicks, Dd3 did it again this morning.

Am really pleased with her.

Mind you she obviously didn't want things to go tooo smoothly because she made herself late for school this morning on purpose because she fancied going through the front door, not lining up with her class.

Auntevil, your DH sounds like a classic, how do you not throttle him??

Ineedalife - tbh, i only have myself to blame. You know how many of our partners are just a gnats off the spectrum themselves - I actually loved the fact that DH is as honest as the day is long. He says things as he thinks it - brutally honest. He is organised in his work, but everybody else's existence and needs seem to be a complete mystery. This used to be fine - and then we had children .

Glad your dd's doing well with the visual timetable.

im finding it a hard slog explaining why DS likes certain things in certain wrappers ect to DH or why everythings lined up in the playroom so dont touch it ect, impossible as we suspect he has AS (DS is ASD) but in DH's day he was just sent to SS for as they say these days "challenging behaviour"