Can someone refuse to teach my child?

[justunbelievable]

Have posted in education but advised to post here for those who have more experience of this. Regular but name-changed for this.

Ds has complex SEN probably Aspergers. Have statement of over 20 hours support but do not feel that school are doing as much as they could to support him. He is often in trouble for being rude to staff and has clashed several times with a HLTA who teaches 2 lessons when usual teacher has PPA time. Was rude again to her recently but he has said she is making nasty remarks and smiling at him when he's in trouble (obviously don't know if this is true or not). Had meeting with school about various problems and suggested ds and HLTA speak to each other to try and build bridges. Ds is happy to give it a go but she is not. Have found out that last week he was given 3 weeks of work sheets and placed in another class. This class was doing mock Sats so ds just had to sit there and get on with it. This class usually does another lesson at that time but it is one that ds has already had so he will likely be repeating work that he has done already. We want him back in his class doing the same as the other dc's. He has never been violent to her so we cannot understand why she won't work with him. Can she do this? Shouldn't she be making allowances for his difficulties? Am waiting to see what happens this week but intend to see HT to discuss this further.

so he was placed in the other class because she couldn't cope with him or didn't want to teach him? Are you sure? If so then no school can't do that. You need to clarify this with the Head. How does he get his 20 hours of support?

Yeah - if he was getting his 20 hours then this would not be happening.

They need to target the lessons for when this HLTA is around, clearly. She seems to have it in for him.

If you think teachers have f*ck all training for ASD kids, then HLTAs have even less (meaning none, probably) They're teachers on the cheap. The Head probably agreed to this exclusion (internal exclusion) to keep her happy.

At my school the TAs they made HLTAs are conitnuously ill because they can't seem to cope with the demands of the job.

I'm sure there are great ones around though but they are not trained sufficiently or really understand the nature of the job (i.e it's easy to watch as a TA and think it looks easy but it's different doing it)

I think you need to meet the Head again.

Thanks Corny/Spinkle.
Was told that putting him elsewhere would prevent him getting stressed in those lessons!
Lsa has not started yet but ds should be having various programmes to support social skills,behaviour,self-esteem etc. At first review meeting following the sm last week we asked about these. Were told that because of Sats he couldn't be pulled out of lessons to do these but after Sats they would do lots with him. I stated that this would then be 6 months after sm was finalised and he would then be leaving in July. Told it was up to us what we wanted them to do! Senco has not worked out what LSA will be doing yet apparently. I know - it's terrible.
Review meeting was hurried up because Senco had another meeting to attend and said I could call her to discuss anything else. I will be putting everything in writing to clarify what was said. I understand that he shouldn't be missing Sats lessons but what about the rest of the time?

yes put everything in writing
so they are receiving funds for his 20 hours but are not spending it on him then?

That's what it's looking like. They have hired lsa though for 17 odd hours but I want to know what they will be doing exactly with those hours apart from supervising lunch/break times.Will have to
have another meeting - get the impression they think I am a PITA already lol!

don't worry if they think you're a PITA - as you say he's leaving in July. It's important that they sort this out.

Nor overly worry about his 'SATs Lessons'.

Are you concerned about his SAT results? Do you think he is going to achieve roughly where he should?

School is concerned about his SAT results. You should be concerned about his well being.

Social skills, behaviour, self-esteem certainly sound more important to him than Maths and English....

You're absolutely right Indigo. We have no worries about him academically and he is predicted to get all level 5's, 4 at the least. I fought for the sm to help with all his difficulties NOT his academic progress. Will be writing to Senco this week.