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Am I wrong ?

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Blossomhowl · 10/10/2005 17:39

Dd who is 6 and has a language/communication disorder still has her dummy.

Now we have tried a few times for her to give it up - birthdays and christmas and it always ends in lots of tears and dd not sleeping.

I just feel guilty in a way and that I should stop her having it. However Bibic said it gives her a lot of comfort and not to stop. It also really calms dd down when she is hyper.

Am I wrong giving her the dummy and should I try harder to give it up?

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Mum2girls · 10/10/2005 17:45

Does she have it all the time or just when she's tired/upset? I would say if it distresses her that much to give it up, why do it - on the other hand other kids can be quite cruel, should they see it.

Just re-read this - my answer is about as useless as they come.

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Blossomhowl · 10/10/2005 17:46

No just when we are at home and bed times. Only in the day if very hyper, tired etc and needs to relax as she finds this hard.

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groat · 10/10/2005 17:47

there are no rights and wrongs you should just do what you feel comfortable with. If it helps her then why worry.

Bethron · 10/10/2005 17:48

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groat · 10/10/2005 17:49

i should add that my nephew is autistic and sucks his thumb all the time. my sister wishes she had given him a dummy.

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Blossomhowl · 10/10/2005 17:54

Bethron - I must admit dd had hers far too much when she was about 3 and she did have speech sound difficulties so we did really limit day time usage and it did help her speech loads!

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Bethron · 10/10/2005 17:58

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Blossomhowl · 10/10/2005 18:02

Bethron that must be hard having 2 completely different views.

Right now the way I see it is it calms dd down and gives me some sanity when dd gets a bit too much and doesn't know what to do with herself!

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aloha · 10/10/2005 18:04

Let her keep it.

Bethron · 10/10/2005 18:09

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Saker · 10/10/2005 18:10

I think if BIBIC say to let her keep it you can stop feeling guilty and let her keep it. As it gives her comfort, probably gives you a break and they think it is helpful there doesn't seem much point into trying to stop her for the time being at least. I bet she's not the only 6 year old with a dummy, SN or not!

coppertop · 10/10/2005 18:19

Let her keep it. Otherwise you'll both end up getting stressed out by it all.

macwoozy · 10/10/2005 18:23

I can't see any problem with that, as long as she's not got it in front of other children as I know how cruel others can be. If it makes life easier for her and yourself then why not.

eidsvold · 10/10/2005 23:28

if you want something different - ask the speech therapist if this is a better idea....

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