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DS1 escaped from soft play

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LegoLady95 · 27/01/2011 20:35

I was putting DS2's shoes on and when I looked up DS1 was gone. I thought he had ran back in the softplay, but when I couldn't see him I panicked, just as another parent brought him in from outside.
I know he is my responsibility but why do they have these security gates, that only a member of staff can buzz open, if they are going to let a 3 year old run out alone?
I still feel sick about it.

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ethel1 · 27/01/2011 20:48

I lost DD at her school fete when she was 6 a parent on the door had not seen her go out and I was buying something,it only took seconds, she was found in a supermarket 200yds away eating the fruit so a member of the staff phoned the school and asked if they had lost a child.
One very embarrassed mum.

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LegoLady95 · 27/01/2011 20:59

Ethel if DS1 had made it to a supermarket he would have been at the chocolate!
I think it has just brought home to me how vulnerable he is. He has no speech and no sense of danger at all. It's not even like he is bent on escape, more like he's just in his own little dreamworld and is oblivious to what's going on, where he is etc.

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sayjay · 27/01/2011 21:02

I kept 'losing' DS last year - actually he kept bolting when my back was turned in shops. I got one of those locator thingies that you plant on them and have a part on your keyring. When you press your button their part beeps to let you know where they are. The noise of the beeping alone was a great deterrent!

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LegoLady95 · 27/01/2011 21:05

Sayjay that sounds great, do you know what they are called so I can find one online? It's a real struggle at the moment as DS2 is at the 'terrible two's' and thinks it's hilarious to run away from me when I am chasing after DS1 who is oblivious. Maybe I should get 2!

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ethel1 · 27/01/2011 21:12

The school did not know how my DD got there she could only toddle at the time.I do understand your problem as my dd is 17 now she cannot talk has no sense of danger has the mental age of a 2-3 year old and will still just wander off.

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LegoLady95 · 27/01/2011 21:42

I do sometimes wonder how I will manage when he is a teenager, and probably 6 foot tall like his dad.How do you manage when out and about?

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ethel1 · 27/01/2011 22:01

She is small for her age, but very strong and determined .we still have paddys of lying on the floor,and does not look where she is going so she bumps into people.
You need eyes in the back of your head
and to become thick skinned, because other people can be very cruel with their comments
But when your DS grows up Im sure you will cope brillantly,hopefully you won't 'mislay' him to many times and I think you had better learn to run fast!

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LegoLady95 · 27/01/2011 22:05

Who needs the gym eh!?

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ethel1 · 27/01/2011 22:19

You've got it{smile}

superfantastic · 27/01/2011 22:39

I just got one of those sensor things today...had them on sale in mothercare, a rechargable one with a bear badge. not sure which DC Ill use it for yet! (DD age 5 ASD or DS age 1 and a half).

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LegoLady95 · 27/01/2011 22:44

I had a search on ebay and found a Tomy Out and About monitor just about to end, so I got it for £2.99! Must be the same one, with the teddy bear badge.
Maybe we both should have bought 2!

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sayjay · 28/01/2011 08:57

Well this is the one here, but I got it from Llyods Pharmacy for around £8. Can't find it on their website though.

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LegoLady95 · 28/01/2011 09:24

I think I will look out for one like that. I think the one I have just ordered from ebay just makes a sound on the parent unit when the child is over 4 metres away, rather than making a sound on the child unit.
Thanks for the link.

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willowthecat · 28/01/2011 09:36

Lego - ds was like that at 3 - a wanderer rather than a runner but he is much better now at 6. Just to let you know sometimes things do get better depending on developmental curve your ds is on.

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LegoLady95 · 28/01/2011 09:53

Thanks Willow, that's good news about your ds. Ialwys look at worst case scenario, guess I like to be prepared for the worse!

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Triggles · 28/01/2011 11:16

At this point, we simply cannot let go of DS2. If we do, he bolts. I was rather hoping this was one aspect that would get better as he gets older, but so far it hasn't changed since he was a toddler (he's 4.5 now). The idea of the monitor is great, but for us it would just mean we'd hear a beeping as he raced off, which I suppose might point us to WHERE he'd run, but wouldn't slow him down any.

I want an invisible force shield that keeps him within a couple feet of me at all times when we're out and about and automatically keeps him from going out into the street or touching anything in the shops. Surely that's not asking too much, is it?

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