How to keep calm with the paed!

[boythengirl]

Hi there, I am an infrequent poster but an avid reader of all the useful information on here.

In short my DS saw a paed. about 4 months ago further to our concerns. SHe suggested that we might be looking at ASD but because he was starting school we would meet up again after 3 months to see how he was getting on there. After chasing for this meeting we finally had it today. At no point were we (DH and me) told the structure of this meeting, we had assumed it was a follow up/catch up. Instead she spent 1 hour 'playing' games with DS with no input requested from us. It would have been nice to know this prior to the meeting but it is in our eyes a reflection of the service we are getting. We find the paed. unfriendly. She doesn't give any kind of intro to our meetings, we just seem to find ourselves in the middle of one. Today with these games it was about 8/9 ganmes one after another and then she said goodbye we will contact you about another meeting! I made it clear that we wanted to discuss our feedback etc. but really no interest shown. We find her quite cold to our DS as well. He is not that talkative at these meetings but why would anyone be. He does not know her and she is not that friendly towards any of us?

Sorry I really need to sound off here but I guess the question I am trying to get to is how do you manage the relatinshio with the paed or other bodies. I don't want to become defensive or agressive to these people for fear it might impact how they treat us/DS etc.

Any advice would be really useful.

Thank you.

Having seen similarly cold (possibly just very over-professional) paeds in the past, I found the only way to deal with things is to take in my list of questions and try to make sure most were answered. You could always say at the start you want to ask things and when would be a good time for that discussion?

It is very disconcerting dealing with these people sometimes. I do wish they could have some training in people skills!

Hi
I had a very similar experience with the paed for ds1. She was very cold and seemed to have zero skills with kids! I requested a new paed eventually via my GP. I made up an excuse about wanting to be seen at a different centre or something. The one we have now is much better.

I had this with an EP- I'm sure she didn't get the best out of my ds-

I think some seem to be 'over-professional'( and don't realise that by engaging with the child and parents they might get more of a clue as to what is really going on)